My evil psycho girlfriend had purposefully stopped taking her birth control without telling me. Now she is pregnant. She says she is keeping it and nothing I will do will ever make her change her mind. I know this is her way of trapping me since I am moving overseas in two months and not taking her with me. (She hinted that now I can't leave her)
My problem is that now there is a baby who is biologically mine. On the other hand she is using this child to blackmail me. Should I stay and take care of the baby or leave her alone to live the life she has chosen?
2006-11-14 21:32:00 · 7 answers · asked by 65Cobra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey who said all women were nice?
Only way to find out if the baby is yours is a paternity test and you will have to endure 9months of more psycho behaviour before you really know the answer to that!
I totally advocate family units but I don't agree that someone should stay just because of a child - why must a child suffer an unhappy environment with bitter resentment? If you guys can't make it work then get up and go - if the baby is yours don't forget about it!
That said - how do you feel about her? Do you still love her - do you want to make it work? Are you ready for a baby? What will you do if it's not yours! Those are all the questions that you have ask yourself and only you have the answers to that!
You said you were moving overseas and not taking her with you - that's the route of your problem! Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned and she is using not only the baby but your emotion against you!
Tough call........Good luck!
Xx
2006-11-14 21:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by honeyed_dimples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of fault, you have a child to be. You can still have a relationship with your child and not with its moher. As much as your ex sounds like a *****, you could have taken responsibility and avoided this situation. Now it's time to step up and be a dad.
Get a legal contract signed that you are happy with and get on with your life, without the mother. Enjoy being a parent, theres nothing like it. Good Luck.
2006-11-15 05:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by Karen D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice to leave but you shouldn't have relied on her birth control only. No wait you shouldn't have dated a psycho in the first place. Congratulations you'll be paying child support for the next 18 yrs
2006-11-15 05:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can still be a father to your baby without being in your exgf life. If you don't want to be with her why should you have to be miserable. And if you are not happy how can you make someone else happy like a baby.-
2006-11-15 05:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her and want to build a family then stay. but if it is just for the sake of the baby then go ahead and go. you have to remember she did deceive you and if she did it this one time she will probably do it again. you shouldn't be forced into doing anything you don't want to. she sounds scandalous, sneaky, and is not to be trusted. to be on the safe side you'd better get a DNA test just to be sure she is not trying to get over on you.
2006-11-15 05:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by sweettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just wrong. Did you know she stopped taking the pill? If you did you are responsible too. Good luck.
2006-11-15 05:35:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly she tricked you into pulling it out not wearing a condom and doing the deed, how dare she trick you into sleeping with her. You didn't want to she made you. Don't do the crime if ya cannot do the crime. God has a sense of humor for folks sometimes in these situations.
-NmD!
2006-11-15 05:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋