hi folks im 21 years old guy.i have a cousin of 18 years.she is really beautiful,very athletic,very intelligen

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hi folks
im a 21 yr old guy.i have a cousin of 18 yrs.she is really very beautiful,very athletic n very intelligent.she has all the qualities i ever lookin for my partner.for this reason i fall in love with her.as im hindu i can`t marry her.one day we accidentally while sleepin got in touch with each other bodies.we approached each other but to a certain limits.she replied positively.we didn`t kiss,didn`t have sex but i touchd her body parts.i know she was not sleepin but she was pretending dat she is asleep.then suddenly some1 came n we got rid of each other.i tried it again after few days but didn`t get much chances.i can`t throw her out of my mind.im in love.i dun know about her but sometimes she give positive response n sometimes she replies negatively whenever i approach her.we never talked to each other abt this.but we both know wat is happenin.she neither warned me nor she told anybody abt this.i m confused.tell me wat should i do?

Answer 1

gaurav, you are a young man, so your sexual feelings are natural towards another female. it is probably a result of you not meeting enough people outside your family. and your family not being very liberal so maybe you are not allowed to meet other girls etc. so these feelings have cropped up in your heart.

but let me tell you what you are thinking and doing is WRONG.

i am a hindu and i can tell you that our religion considers this as a sin. cousins are considered as own brothers and sisters.

in religions like muslim such things are acceptable where they marry their cousins but our religion has certain rules, and there is a reason for these rules and your sexual intentions with your cousins is UNACCEPTABLE.

God gave you birth in a hindu family for a reason, dont dishonour your religion. pls stop these horrible ideas and look for some other girl outside. do you not have friends or college mates ? or other girls to mingle with?

trust me, there are lots and lots of nice and intelligent girls out there and surely your soulmate is out there too, one day you will find her and marry her.

i am very close to my cousins, there is nothing wrong with that. you can be close to your cousin, maybe you two click, so you can talk about things, share your ups and downs, but love in a sexual manner - all that is wrong.

your cousin too is at fault, she should not have let you advance on her like that. but she is younger than you, and as an elder brother it is your responsiblity to protect her and respect her and instead of that you are making sexual advances towards her ?

think of the rakhi she ties you every year and the promise you make her of protecting her ? is this how you will fulfill that ?

imagine if your cousin was doing such a thing to your sister ?

good luck Gaurav, I hope my words make sense and I have put some thoughts ahead in your mind. Pls think about it dear, and make your decision with God in your heart

best wishes, your sis in London

Answer 2

Cool it, you said, "Hi folks im 21 years old guy.i have a cousin of 18 years". You both are old enough but far from mature.

But if you still think, you are old enough.

Then both of you are old enough, I have no arguments.

You should talk it out, with each other first. Do not touch each other without understanding the results, it can be a life time of heart break and misery, you may end up with sick or retarded off springs.

Keep in mine that before any thing else happens you need to see a lawyer together, in most communities it is illegal to have a relationship with certain blood relatives. Lawyer can advice on the place to get married.

Beside the law, it is not good genetically to marry a blood relative, even when it is allowed, in some countries and some community and some localities, it is good to still avoid it. The least both of you can do is to go for joint genetic counselling.

If the female is at a age beyond the conceiving then there is no problem with the relation ship, there are state in USA that have the Exemption on the basses of the age of the female.

Relatives are generally attracted to each other, as a rule but must keep a distance, for the genetic reasons.

Answer 3

Look i understand ur problem. This is a issue mainly becos in our hindu society it is not accepted. So it is better if u dont sleep in the same bed as her. When a girl sleeps, it is normal that her clothes will be dishevelled and you may find her 18 yr old body exposed. This will lead to ur excitement and u may do something bad.

Listen to my advice - dont touch her body parts again - thats wrong. Try making a gf and if u want, get intimate with her.

If u still find ur cousin exciting, i feel u should not involve her in ur issue - she must be thinking of u by a BHAI..isnt it?

If u must get 'close' - try this - when she is asleep - look at her and her clothes and touch urself. But dont touch her or wake her up. Sleep in a different bed.

This way she never knows that u feel excited towards her and a family shame is hidden - yet u have fun. After a few weeks, u will grow out of this and u will feel no excitement towards her.

Answer 4

Don't listen to the nay-sayers. Who said we all have to go to college to be successful. Your idea of success is to be a good mom! Good for you! 18 IS young, but thats no indicator of ability to parent. Believe me on that. If you are both ready to have a baby (and it sounds like your chances are better now than before) then do it. A lot of people found that the stress of trying was getting them down. Be relaxed, eat healthily. You can buy fertility enhancers at most drug stores and even supermarkets (here in Australia you can). Just keep trying, but don't over try. Your partner will have a better "shot" if you only do it once or twice a week. Just be aware of your cycle. If it still doesn't work, ane endodemetritis is a tough one, you may want to look into IVF.

Answer 5

First you have no reason to be sleeping with your female cousin! If you act on this you are no better than a dog in the wild. Have a little self control and stay away from her. You shouldn't be touching anyone's body parts while YOU think they are sleeping. It's not up to you to decide if they are pretending!

Get out of the bed and find someone your own age and not of your blood! My guess it, she's probably not even 18, and you were molesting her in her room.

Answer 6

A relationship with a close relative, such as a cousin, will always be very difficult. Very few family members, if any, would be supportive of it, or accept it at all. It would most likely have to be kept secret and that would make it very hard for both people, or more if somehow it was discovered. It is best to talk to her about it and see what makes her comfortable, but the wisest decision is to agree that it would not work and retain a close friendship.

Answer 7

I think you have to consult a psychatrist..Are you mad or what ..SHe is your cousin..ANd you should not have such a feeling towards her..But dont get disheartened try to speak with her but dont allow yourself towards this kind of thoughts..Its wrong in all sense.She is your sister yaar,..Try to go out ther are lot of girls born for you...

Now dont feel disheartened ..consider her as a good friend so that you wont think her as a partner..

All the best

Answer 8

first of all c g you need to stop advertising your freakin website, this is unappropriate content for some people who are under the age of majority. Have some respect!!!

and as for the question at hand.....
whether you are hindu or not has nothing to do with this youare related to this girl...so I believe that is illegal everywhere isn't it --at least it is immoral everywhere.

Answer 9

hey she is ur cousin ,ur her bro don't do this to her she is 18 only..hv no mind but u r 21 use ur mind ....ur hindu its not possible to marry ur cousin ok ....just ignore her it will be good 4 u ,so its better to leave things in good situation so that u both can face each other in future....(u will get another girl 4 u ,she is like ur ideal girl but she is ur cousin.....wait 4 ur girl, u will get girl, that is 4 u .....)....so don't think about her...ok...

Answer 10

Forget her, turn our attention to someone else. She is your cousin, dear. What you feel maybe lust because you have discovered the pleasure a human body can give. Try focusing on someone else.