My daughter is 2 (almost 3) and doesnt listen to anything I tell her to do! My husband and I feel like we have done everything we are supposed to when it comes to discipline. We ask her to do a task in a kind loving voice. If she doesnt do it, we ask in a "Im getting serious" tone. And if she still doesnt do it then she'll get a spanking or have to sit in time out for 2 minutes. She always tries to buy more time or get our attention onto something else by hugging on our legs and telling us she wants a kiss. Or she'll even flash a million dollar smile and say "No" really sweet and innocent like. How do I get her to realize that she has to do what I say, and not after I have said it a thousand times? Is this just a typical "terrible two's" thing? Or do you think I have a bigger problem on my hands? And how do I stay serious when it comes to telling her to do something when she does the things that are so darn cute?
2006-11-14 20:53:56 · 7 answers · asked by Heather K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ahhh the trials of motherhood!! as a mother of 2 young girls, I know exactly what you are going through! mine are soon to be 2 and 5. As another stated, the counting method...it works...it really does! I count to 3, and if my oldest gets there, she gets a spanking or a privilage taken away..she has not gotten to 3 very often!
To keep consistant with her, when she hugs you or kisses you in hopes of skipping out of punishment or doing what she is told, hug and kiss her back, and tell her "I love you, but you have to do what mommy asks" when she smiles at you and tells you no, smile back, tell her "you're so pretty when you smile" and continue with "now go do what mommy says or by the time I count to 3 I'm going to **insert punishment here**" At that age, spanking my daughter didn't do much good, she could care less, infact, she would verbally choose a spanking over a chore! Instead of using the spanking method, I took away her favorite toys, wouldn't let her watch tv, sent her to her room...anything that I knew would upset her, and she would do what she was asked in order to gain back her favorite things. I would leave the spanking alone as much as possible, and save it for when she gets a bit older and does things she KNOWS is wrong, then she won't do it again.
another way of getting her to do things for you, is to make a reward chart. explain it's concept to her, and every time she does what she is told IE brush her teeth, pick up her toys, put her dishes in the sink, put a sticker in the corresponding area on the chart. when she gets X amount of stickers she gets a reward. a trip to Chuckie Cheese, $20 to go pick out a toy at Toys R Us, her choice of a movie rental....anything that would get her excited to do what she is asked. get her a little "cleaning lady" toy set and when you clean, give it to her, and she'll have so much fun following behind you doing what you are doing!
The 2s are nothing compared to the 3s.....it gets worse, until they are about 4 and a bit more mature, but the maturity of the child has a lot to do with the responsibilties she has at her age now.
Bless you....it gets tough!!
2006-11-14 22:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by TaureanAngel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say hun but my 2yr old is the same!! almost exaclty!!
lol
the funny thing is with 2yr old girls is they know what they are doing..they arent silly little girls!!
Have u tried ignoring the crying...i dont mean walk away i mean just picking her up and saying "be quiet while mum explains to u why u cant do that"!!
My eldest is forever acting out and being naughty but its when she is quiet that i worry cos then i know she is upto something shifty!! lol
It will pass.. maybe give her something constructive to do!! does she go to daycare/kindy!?
is she around other kids often!?
kids are like sponges they need constant movement and action until they pass out lol
keep up what u have been doing and dont stress!!
2006-11-15 05:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard but u have to overlook the cuteness even if she screams and cries- she's eventually stop throwing the fit and learn to do what u say so that she doesnt end up in trouble- u have to be a lil more tough- it sounds like ur letting her get away with whatever she does when she turns cute but thats what makes them brats. i know the whole ur age is how long ur in time out but that really doesnt work- they dont actually realize they're in time out until they cant play for 10 minutes and they want to... u have to stay and explain it to them but in the end its better for everyone and u wont end up with a spoiled brat on ur hands! :)
2006-11-15 05:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by mmackie08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
join the club...They will come around eventually so don't sweat it too much. 3 is the same as 2-in our case anyway and we have a little boy who only hears when he wants too...he flashes a charming smile too....Just gotta enjoy for now because they don't stay little that long. Wait till the teenage years, and this will be a time you wish you could go back to...LOL
2006-11-15 08:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by TL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mom she is 2 and 2 yr old will be a 2 yr old. Im sure you nd your husband are doing a great job with her but yr 2 and 3 is difficult. Believe me I have a daycare I know
2006-11-15 06:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she will grow out of it...but in the meantime....give her lots and lots of praise when she does do it....even reward her....you need to stay consistant and your hubby needs to fully support you and stick with the program....the time out is a good way of discipline it removes them from the situation and gives them a minute or two to reflect....make sure you explain why she is in time out and get her to tell you why she was there and apologise before she gets out.......but the most important is the praise....if she nows theres something postive in it for her she will want the positive attention.....
2006-11-15 05:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by askaway 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok...we use the count down method, and it has worked for 18 years. If my wife calls one of the children and they do not respond, she starts counting real loud. ONE!!! TWO!!! THREE!!!! FOUR!!! YOU BETTER HOPE I DONT GET TO FIVE !!!!! She did that the other day to my oldest. I swear his 18yo but was moving down the hall!! I've never seen what she would do if she ever got to five...lol It works 4 all three of our kids!
I love it when retards give you a thumbs down before you ever get through typing your response!
2006-11-15 04:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋