Im 13 years old my life it is not going very well. Me, my mom and and my brothers are not in shape and neither of us are, we all seem to use fowel language we have many problems. My mom does not have a job It seems she cannot keep a job for so long. me and my brothers get along but we seem to fight alot in the ways as in adults do like they cuss and fist fight and I try to stop but we take it as a joke. I think this happens because our Birth father isnt in our life. But I do not depend on him anymore I depend on our Lord and our Savior. My family lose our apartments kind of quick either we cant afford rent money or people complain and it is beacause the way our house is we are not very neat but messy. We used to live in hotels and motels and with family and friends. Right now i have tow brothers and me a girl and my mother we all live in a small one bedroom apartment but we all sleep in the living room. What im trying to say is that our life is VERY difficult. My grades are low.
2006-11-14 20:51:06 · 9 answers · asked by bAwLlIiN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Now that you have realised there is a problem you must act on it. Ask your family why life is the way it is? I think you should stay in school as long as possible and get a job when your 17-18yo. Try to eat healthy and be the best person you can be. Exercise with friends or by yourself if you have to (Most ball sports are great!) If you make an effort it might rub off on your family. Good Luck ")
2006-11-14 21:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Rossco 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Find a family member to take you in. Every child deserves a stable enviroment. Get your grades up and if you need help talk with your teachers they can direct you to free tutors. When you get older go to college and get an education so you can live a better life then what it is like now. Break the cycle. When you get older and have childern of your own you will want to give them a better life and stable home.
Moving in with a different family member does not indicate that you don't love your mom. So if she says you don't love her because you are moveing out, then slam her with "If that is the way of thinking, then you don't love me because you don't provide a stable enviroment.
I am not saying your mom doesn't love you, I am sure she does, she just hasn't grown up yet and may never do so. Some of us adults get lost in life and we feel helpless and hopeless, yet we do nothing to change our lives.
By the way a one bedroom apartment for 5 people just isn't right. I believe if social services knew of this they would pull you out of their.
If you can't find a family member then talk to your school. They can help you get out of there. Even if it is foster care, I would think that would be a better enviroment. I can't say for sure because I have never lived in foster care, nor do I know anyone that has.
Good luck to you and I wish you all the best in life. It's up to you to make a difference.
2006-11-15 07:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, I feel for you. I want to reach out and help but it is difficult. I can imagine what you are going through. But, please remember that this is only temporary and that you will soon grow up and make your own world. It is not your choice to have been born into this family, but it is your choice how to use the hardship to your own advantage. Now you are blessed enough to know what a quiet and a happy family life means because you simply miss that. So, it will be the focus of your pursuit once you get older and independent, which will happen one day. I know that you have a good heart and the determination it takes to make things better. If the pressure gets too great to handle, try social services so that your mom can get help moving into a bigger apartment. Watch out for yourself and good luck. Love you, kid.
2006-11-15 05:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the problems you have,well try to fix the little ones anyway and as for the rest of the family there isn't really much you can do about them,the best thing you could do for yourself if you cant live with another family member and that is try to avoid the fights and the cuss words,Good Luck.
2006-11-15 08:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by wizardalli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sister...life is not a problem to be solve.its a reality to experience....
study hard if your grades are low.in every problem there corresponds a solution.in fact,a lot of solutions....i'm so amazed that at your age,,you experience such big problems...just trust GOD.....HE will not allow you to suffer from such situations if you can't handle it,right?
life is a matter of choice friend..if you want your life to be a meanigful one,then you can make it,,,,as a matter of fact...in your situation now...it's already a part of a meaningful life.... that's life...when you are mature enough,,you can understand and realize what life really is....do not focus on the problem.focus on the solution...just do your part as a member of the family....i know you can still do something at your young age.....you can't do everything but still you can do something and because you can't do everything i hope you will not refuse to do that something you can do....enjoy your childhood and enjoy your life.....remember,,that there always be greater and lesser persons than yourselves...look...you should be happy cause you still have a family,,you go to school..you have a room to live in..and you still have a life to live on...and a lot more blessings which others don't have,,,and you have GOD,,,right?
so you are still very very lucky...you know what..here in our country..most of the people here are below poverty line....
so live your life to the fullest and smile..smile and smile....you deserve to be happy because that's GOD want you to be.....study hard,,that's one of the "something" you can do and believe me..one day you'll be great..you'll be a great help in your family....
2006-11-15 05:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by yucanzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's good that are still going to school. make good of the opportunity. aim for the best possible grades that you can. don't let your problems stop you from succeding in school. i know that when you grow up you can still find a job even if you did not finish school. but what kind of job would it be? would you get a high paying job? probably not.
so the best you can do to help yourself & your family would be to study hard, finish school, and get a high paying job. so you can prove to others that you are very good and that you can get out of the hard life you are experienceing right now.
also don't ever forget to pray and ask GOD for blessings. remember to thank HIM for any blessing that you receive also. even if it is very small.
2006-11-15 05:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to go live with another family member, because your Mother isn't much of one. Sorry for your situation, but it sounds like you will just have to put up with it all until you can move out.
2006-11-15 04:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by moonsmagicdust 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if ya only 13 and ya think ya lifes not going well now wait till ya another ten yrs older than youll know what its like to find things hard and difficult
2006-11-15 06:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by mustang_rws 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will make you more mature.. more experience.. and try to meet more happy people and will make you happy, darling, no worry - what comes will come
2006-11-15 04:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋