My mate and I are just friends. There is no chance of us being anything more. In the past we have had bedroom antics together but we never made it a regular habit and we don’t use each other. The last time we had any bedroom antics we nearly had sex but didn’t, but did do everything else. I was chatting to him the other day and reminded him of the last time we did stuff together. But he didn’t remember it at all and he was shocked and surprised at himself. He said that he didn’t remember because he had been drinking and he must have been drunk. I told him I was put out that he couldn’t remember and had to tell him what happened. He was stunned and couldn’t believe what happened. He is generally a nice person, polite, considerate and means well but does have bad points too.
My question is do you think he feels bad about not remembering what we did? Or is he not bothered at all? It’s not as if I was someone he’d picked up on a night out that could have been a drunken mistake.
2006-11-14 20:48:51 · 7 answers · asked by rainbow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ooooh, I think he remembers all right - but he would rather the two of you didn't get into that again. I'll bet he has a significant other now and he is indeed feeling bad - not because he has forgotten but because he would rather not remember. Guilt is a powerful memory eraser. Don't mention it again - he does NOT want to talk about it!
2006-11-14 21:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, my friend i think that u need to maintain a distance from him and not have anymore bedroom antics. cos he does not mean u anything much more than a friend. u need to be strict with ureself and create value in friendship, rather if u continue i feel something bad may happen and it would affect ure emotions.u need to look on to your mission rather thinking what he must be . this is what i thought when i was in a similar kind of situation.
2006-11-15 04:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Creative zest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you someone that he would be ashamed to be with...no offense but if your fat or ugly... i would just straight out deniy it too.. its nothing personal.. im sure that he loves you dearly as a freind... but sometimes in the heat of the moment you do things that you regret...
and most important..
you were there.. WAS he so drunk that he wouldnt remember... in my experience it take ALOT of alcohol to get you to the point where you dont remember your night
and... it sounds to me like you like him and want it to happen again... otherwise you would not have brought it up to him... it wasnt the first time so its not like.... "So.. how did that happen."
im guessin it was more like " So.. was it good enough to happen again?"
i could be wrong.. but thats what i gathered from the situation
2006-11-15 04:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by Matthew David 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i may be both, maybe he does not want you guys to be more than just friends.i think you should just give it some time and don't push ok am sure with time you guys will find out just what you both want from each other just go with the flow.
2006-11-15 04:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he didn't remember what happened it means he was seriously drunk and didn't know what he was doing. so responsibility is on u only.
2006-11-15 06:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
considered to be a 'friend with benefits' then. Nothing more nothing less
2006-11-15 04:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is jus to scared to admit what happened and his feelings for you trust me been there got the tshirt!!!!!
2006-11-15 07:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Neil L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋