I posted a similar question a few days ago, but would like to rephrase it. My boyfriend is a mexican man and we are both in our 30's. Well recently we went to the grocery store and he saw a family that he used to live next door to when he was married to his ex wife. The man embraced Antonio, and they proceded to have a lively conversation. I was standing right there and Antonio didnt introduce me to the man or his wife. In the mexican culture is this normal? Antonio told me later after I asked him why he didnt introduce me that its not normal to introduce the wife or girlfriend unless we are entering the home of the other party. This doesnt sound true to me. Was he being disrespectful to me? Did this send the message to these people that I am not important? Similar situations have happened before and I am starting to feel uncomfortable with it. Do you think he would have introduced me if I were Mexican instead of white?
2006-11-14 20:43:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to the bigoted idiot who answered that I shouldnt date outside of my race, I think you are a narrowminded racist who needs to look at this world with your eyes open instead of closed. People can love people from other races and there is nothing wrong with that. Life is full of learning experiences, and this is only one of them.
2006-11-14 23:25:05 · update #1
Hola!
I'm mexican (living in Mexico City), and i can tell you :
That is not a mexican manners, this guy just don't have manners at all, so please cut him right now, because we, the mexicans treat with respect and love our couples.
This guy is an idiot. But please, don't think all the mexicans are liers or stupids like your boyfriend.
And please, don't hate us by one bad experince, we the mexicans are very romantic we treat with a lot of respect our girlfriends.
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2006-11-17 06:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im Mexican and I have seen this but it does depends on how you are raised. My boyfriend isnt the usual Mexican macho.
Many times my boyfriend and I have done this to each other because we dont plan on having a long conversation so we dont introduce each other, then we end up stuck talking and the other is just standing there. Usually introducing each other is allowing one another to get to know each other, and maybe Antonio wanted to get the hell out of there.
Also, maybe he doesnt remember their name and he doesnt want to go through the embarrasment.
Or, maybe he is really happy with you and doesnt want any info going to his ex so he just doesnt introduce you. Some chicks find out their ex is happy and want to destroy it.
But you do have to consider that you are the new girlfriend after his ex, so....he doesnt want you to get judged or talked about (trust me traditional Mexicans dont approve of divorce) so he rather save you the comments or looks. And I dont think your race has anything to do.
2006-11-14 20:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, this sounds horrible. I'm mexican and what your boyfriend told you is not true, that it's not normal to introduce the wife or girlfriend unless your entereing the home of the other party.
this is completely wrong!
i think your boyfriend needs to learn some manners. I think this was very rude of him that he didn't introduce you to his friend.
If you were asian, black, arab, or even the color ORANGE, he should've introduced you regardless of your ethnicity.
best of luck to you and your boyfriend
2006-11-15 13:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by Alexis Samira 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is Mexican men are suppose to introduce there girlfriends and wives to there friends. I think you may need to just break up with him for being rude and no considerate of you. It is a major red flag.
2014-02-06 23:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your man is just plain rude. My ex husband was Mexican, and he always introduced me to friends and family. And I'm not Mexican either.
2006-11-14 20:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you feelings are in place. He is being disrespectful; otherwise he'd be proud of you and introduce you to his family and friends. What he tells you is a bunch of bull. No matter what culture he has, he is now with you and should not do things that will offend you.
2006-11-14 20:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a matter of him being Mexican or you not being Mexican. I think it's simply being a matter of him having no manners.
2006-11-14 20:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no i do not think it is rude or disrespectful of him. sounds like you need to do your homework on ethics and culture. No even if you were mexican he would not have introduced you.
2006-11-14 20:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by Snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Stop dating outside of your race and you won't have to worry about cultural differences. Sheesh, that's a no brainer.
2006-11-14 22:27:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
ASK THIS ABOUT TO ANOTHER MEXICAN MAN.
2006-11-14 20:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋