i was 9 weeks pregnant at the time. i had no choice to get the 'procedure' done after my mom lectured me on my education and i was financially and emotionally unstabled. i am pretty young as well... in my late teens.
now i regret giving up my baby girl and i want her to see that i care for her and will never forget her. it's kind of hard having memories of a child i never knew at all, since i dont know her birthday, and her name... but i want to have something to remember her by...
2006-11-14 20:24:49 · 12 answers · asked by fagfag 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Tattoos
also, if you don't believe in these uhh.. beliefs. spirits can find out if it's going to be a girl or boy. and the father's mom is spiritual. that's how it came to a conclusion that it was a girl
2006-11-14 20:58:13 · update #1
oh. and honestly. its like i never knew her and the pain is not so deep (but i still wonder what could have been). but all i want to do is remember my first child and not the pain from losing her.
2006-11-14 21:03:06 · update #2
Forget the tattoo ... strive to be the best person you can be, do well at school ... go on to university and make something of your life through hard work and dedication .... make yourself into someone your daughter would have been proud of :)
Good Luck
2006-11-14 20:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Years ago, I had a miss-carriage at 8 weeks gone. I was a mess for years, i would get a lump in my throat when i saw women pregnant in the street. But, I made a up the gaps for my baby. I decided it was a Baby boy, I named him, and I knew my due date roughly so i made up his birthday too. It helped me except it and now it's a memory I treasure and not something I can't think about.
I am currently deciding on a tattoo in his memory and I'm finding it so hard. It has to be perfect. I think the best thing is something without a name displayed cos you will only have people asking you who that is all the time and you don't want to be telling your story to everyone who asks. A flower is a good one, especially for a little girl or the animal that symbolizes the Chinese year your little one would have been born.
Good luck in your decision!
2006-11-15 07:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lisakjw 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you r mom was wrong to push you into this decision, & the clininc was in the wrong for letting you go ahead when it wasn't your decision.
Secondly, at nine weeks, no-one would be able to tell you that it was a girl.
Tattoos are for life and if you get this tattoo, you will certainly be living with grief and guilt as it will be there as a constant reminder.
I'm no way against tattoos, I have zillions of them, but I too lost a baby at 20 weeks when I went into premature labour (I know he was a boy), but I relive the day in my head everyday & having a tattoo would just make things twice as hard.
This happened 9 years ago & I have since has two gorgeous children, but that doesn't take away my memory.
You need to move on, not sit around thinking of it (I haven't had a procedure so I don't know what you are going through), but I think a tattoo wouldn't be right in these circumstances. You are just looking for something else to direct the pain into.
If you do insist on having one, maybe a rosebud on your ankle? That can be seen as your lost baby, or you being young and growing into adulthood.
Good luck :-)
2006-11-15 04:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by MISS B.ITCH 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If you get a tattoo for her how about a butterflies. They remind me of change. You are not the person now who you where. Also even if your not Catholic they have a group called "The sisters of Ruth" This is a group of women getting over having the "procedure" done.
I was 17 when I got pregnant. My dad talked my doctor into writing out that I had to have one. This was a time that it was not easy to get it done. I had hitch hiked over a friends house one nite and an older man picked me up. It was my first time. I still think about the baby and how old he would be. Hunny get help.
2006-11-15 04:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tedi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
I am sorry to hear about your loss, you must be devastated.
My thoughts are that if you have a permanent reminder of your loss you will never be able to move on with your life, i am not saying for you to forget, as you will never forget but if you have a tattoo you will always feel sad.
Find a space where you feel happy and safe and plant a tree, visit it often and watch how it grows and gets stronger.
Take care and be the best person you can be.
2006-11-15 04:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by Bladerunner (Dave) 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
How very unfortunate that you lost your baby. I know what you are going through. How about a little butterfly or a flower on your upper arm. That way you will see it every day and remember why you put it there. If you put it on your shoulder blade you will only see it in a mirror.
2006-11-15 04:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mags 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am working on a piece for my two children I have lost to miscarriages. I am going to have a rose with two petals beneath it that have fallen from it. The rose signifies myself and the rose petals are a part of me I lost when I lost my baby girls.
2006-11-15 14:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by co_r_upt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister-in-law got a tattoo with three roses in full bloom (for her living children) and two buds (for the two she lost) but I like the tree idea...then everyone could share the beauty...like a dogwood or cherry tree....think about it and ask for guidance
2006-11-16 14:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lilliput1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel very sorry for you i would suggest a heart on the back saying either baby girl or what you would want to name her now and have 1 angel on each side and at the bottom saying mommie will always love you.
2006-11-15 08:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by Matt B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel; Yes, if you must have a tattoo in memory of the lost child, may I suggest a beautiful red rose, with the name you like BEST!??
I hope this will make you remember her, PLUS be nice to every girl child that comes along in your life.
2006-11-15 04:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by thegentle Indian 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋