Even though it's not permitted in Islam, just wondering if you have.
Wasalam :)
2006-11-14 20:13:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
@ Toto: Hey. Yeah, I am Muslim. What have I wished for? Just curious at to whether people of the religion as me have had relationships or not. I have not.
@ Nadia q: Salams, yes I know it's haram. I haven't had one, and I won't, Inshallah :)
2006-11-14 20:20:14 · update #1
@ B.PumPkim: Yes, Islam does forbid bf/gf relationships. The only person you are allowed to be with is your spouse. Evidence is from the Quran and Ahadeeth.
The traditional way is for the man's mum to ask around for a good girl for her son. Then he goes over her house, they talk and if they're both comfortable they meet again. This meetings go on till they are both completely comfortable with eachother. They then get engaged, and married. Before Katb Ktab they are not allowed to be alone, someone must be with them. After the engagement, they can be alone, but only after marriage can they do the special marital action. During the engagement (Katb Ktab) they can hug, etc...
Nowadays, Muslims want to imitate others and be 'free' and so engage in haram (prohibited) acts. It's not a good thing.
2006-11-14 20:25:29 · update #2
@ Lady in love: What do you mean you're on the phlills? You mean on the Pill? Premarital sex is not allowed in Islam! Your bf is obviously not religious at all :(
2006-11-14 20:30:36 · update #3
@ Ahsiniorak: Ofcourse people want to have attention from others. That's what marriage is for. Attention from your husband/wife.
2006-11-14 20:41:10 · update #4
well having a girlfriend or a boyfriend isn't permitted in the sense that it is in western society today.. like 100years ago in the west. the way they dated, was the boy came up to the girls house, asked permission from the father if he could see the girl.. a chaperone was then around and the boy the best he could hope for was a touch of a hand as he sat next to her in the front parlor... Its sort of like that today in Islam... If a boy wants a girl.. both families are involved. and its not dating for datings sake.. Its more a prospect for marriage.. he comes and asks the girls family and if the family and she agrees, he can meet with her.. and on a regular basis in the company of family members.. No hanky panky pre marital stuff though.. .. But I have noticed (I live in SaudiArabia) that blue tooth technology and the internet helps some of the youth overcome some obsticals...
2006-11-14 20:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mintee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is Muslim, and when we met over a year ago on the net he told me it was forbidden to date. He always referred to me as his wife. We got married in his country back in August and consummated the marriage. He was so worth the wait.
2006-11-15 04:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a muslim BF from past 4 years. nd he has no intention of gettin married to me. he has nt evn had sex with me coz in islam u shud do it wid the one whom u marry. so i dun think its nythin wron in havin GF/BF as long as u r pure at heart
2006-11-15 05:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by aisb 8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when Islam forbid the muslim to have bf/gf. They just tell u not to do maksiat / sin if we have bf/gf. If we dun have bf/gf, how the hell are we gonna get married and have children.
2006-11-15 04:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
my bf was muslim....and all my friends who are muslims have or have had a gF/bf...we are on the phils. so i think it's okay here becuz everyones got one...or two ..but my bf is not one of those 2-timers...he's really religious and Allah just helped us with our recent problem...(and God too bcuz i am catholic) but it wont matter bcuz love is all that matters...
2006-11-15 04:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by LaDy in Luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a muslim.. u can have a bf/gf as long as u know ur limit and don't cross the borders... and don't disgrace ur parents... i'm sure u want to feel attention from the opposite sex beside attentions from ur siblings & parents...
2006-11-15 04:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by ahsinoriahk 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
its fully haraam in Islam.and i feel its really right what Allah hs said , We shouldnt have it also.May you get a loving husband.You can enjoy with him in every way you can.He will respect you all life.
Allah hafiz
salam
2006-11-15 04:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a chinese now dating a muslim gal for close to 1 yr...
hope that answer yer question... religion is not to come in between love... remember that =)
2006-11-15 04:17:49 · answer #8 · answered by Nitesky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must be Muslim. Be careful what you wish for.
2006-11-15 04:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
don't really know sorry
2006-11-15 04:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by *niki loves all god* 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋