im 21 years old and single and recently took a trip to Prague where prostitution is legal. We were all drunk one night and went into a strip club. A girl offfered me sex and I accepted. I felt so ashamed of myself the next day and was depressed. I hav finally forgivin my self and I now think differently about sex completely. The problem is, how do i tell a future girlfreind that i did this. or do i? Im an honest person but do they really need to know? do you think they would leave me for this or never trust me again if i told them?
2006-11-14 20:00:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dun. They must bring this secret to your grave. Dun ever let her know.
2006-11-14 20:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by bleurose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ay,dude was that your first time or was it that she was a prostitute.You never really specified that you paid for sex-all you said was that she offered,you accepted and stated this fact about Prague;"prostitution was legal".Dude you were single,drunk and are young-Chalk it up to a youthful indiscretion.Are you a extremely religious person or did you catch something other then a curable STD-if that is the case then yes you owe your parntner the truth but if you are clean and safe then probably let it go.Don't make a mountian out of a mole hill.Sex is a part of life-you are after all human .My friend it's very honorable that you are an honest person but keep it on a need to know or don't ask don't tell basis.Would you want to know of the same from your partner?Use your discretion and judgment-this experience was before your future relationship and being so it is really not applicable.Take it easy my friend.At least you know the kind of person you are and take pride in having decent value and morals.You will make someone a very happy,loyal and devoted partner.Cudos.peace.Chio!Riz>.
2006-11-14 20:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Shalimaar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend in the future really loves you she doesn't even need to really love you! You are not alone! So many guys have sex with prostitutes! I'm laughing right now! SORRY! I was shocked! I learned that half my guy friends have paid for sex! I learned this a few years back, but WHO KNEW!!! It is what it is! You did what you did! Stop feeling guilty! If you feel the need to tell a future girlfriend about that then if she judges you and doesn't accept it, then **** HER! She isn't right for you anyway! You should be able to tell and share everything with someone you care about!
2006-11-14 20:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need not give information about your encounter with this prostitute. You are honest person be honest with your to be girl friend. I would think any girl who is told that you have been with a prostitute will not like to trust you. In other words do not invite the bull to attack you when you do not need to
2006-11-14 20:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her if you want her to know... dont tell her unless she asks... there is no way she'll live you if she really loves you... your past is for you to keep and not for her to know... if she asks, then just be honest...for her safety(if you do care for her), get checked for any disease. that's the only thing... besides, this happened in the past so it's almost the same as sleeping with your ex... i really do think that this will only matter if you are in a relationship and then you sleep with a prostitute, or any other girl... that is all.
2006-11-14 20:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by lonely girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, were you with someone when this happened, no. Then you have nothing to forgive yourself for...you are human. Next, check yourself for deseases, if you do not have any then don't worry about it. Your past is your past. If this girl cannot accept you for you , and you decisions..then she is not worthy my friend. Take care and good luck.
2006-11-14 20:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by EternalBlueMemory 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
damn, if i knew this abt my bf i'ld dump him... i guess you shouldn't tell unless asked... but even then, i'm in doubt... erm, if it's for conscience sake, you could spill the beans but i do wish you have a mature gf who will forgive and forget :) i feel very sorry for you... but maybe you could get a girl who was just as bad earlier and wants to change like you? or maybe you could get a girl who doesn't mind about ppl's sexual life...
2006-11-14 20:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know that saying, "some things are better left unsaid"? perfect example here. she has no reason to know. just like i don't care about a woman's past sex life, it's in the past and all i care about is now and what happens between US.
2006-11-14 20:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, it would be none of their business. You needn't feel compelled to tell them anything that happened before you met her. That does not, however, include informing her that you had contracted a STD, if you did.
2006-11-14 20:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha! So have lots of guys while overseas. That's intimate knowledge that you don't owe anyone except your fiance.
2006-11-14 20:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋