A young looking mommy and people's comments?

Question

What do you say to this - I'm petite and young looking for 29 yrs old and a mommy - I constantly get rude remarks from people because they think that I am a teenage mom. Wardrobe doesn't seem to make a difference - I've even gotten comments while in a suit. That and how insensitive of people...what if I was a teenage mom? Way to make people feel bad. Any suggestions as to how to respond back to comments? I don't want to appear rude but basically want to make the person feel rude for making some sort of age comment to me in the first place. Thoughts?

Answer 1

I hear ya! I'm 24 w/ two kids... Never mind that I was married before I had kids, own my own home or that I that I have a college degree... Oh, no, they see a young woman with a couple of kids and the comments start to fly! Like I must be some uneducated mess on welfare who got knocked up in high school or something? I even had one guy ask me if I spoke English!

Most of the time I just roll my eyes and walk on, but it's hard to do sometimes. Especially when comments are made that sound ok at first, but you know it was meant to sting a little... like being told "oh well, at least you'll be able to tell your kids you remember what it was like to be their age and really mean it!"

I know it doesn't help much to say just walk away, but at least maybe I can give you some consolation in knowing you're not alone!

Answer 2

I had the opposite problem for a couple years. I was living, temporarily, in an area of the country where very young women got pregnant--and often.

But i, well, i had my first child at 32 and my second/last at 40. Every so often, someone well-meaning would say, "Oh! Your grandson is so adorable!" To which i would reply with a big bright smile, "He's my son, and thank you."

I really think that most people are well-intentioned but their efforts are intrusive and grate on us who do fit their preconceived notions of what "Mommy" should look like.

Really, it doesn't matter.

But even more really, if it does bother you then it does matter.

I say take the high road.

If/when the 'teen aged mom' comments come again, smile politely--and right into their eyes--and respond with something like this:
"Why! Thank you so very much at taking such an interest in the well-being of my child--and you, a total stranger, too! If i wasn't so close to turning 30 i might put little Junior here down and come over there and give you a big hug."

Then walk away, still smiling politely.

People don't know how to counter politeness in the face of their being so rude.

Sad but true.

Answer 3

i'm 21 and before everything i've got been given the greater youthful comments each and every of the time... now i dont look to get any (apart from human beings that arise and remark on how lovable he's somedays they experience never ending lol)- my son is barely 6 months previous and the time rather does pass so without delay doesnt it! I never had any impolite comments particularly byt the hospitalstaff. That nurse sounds like a b*tch... a rather good variety of girls human beings have themes with breastfeeding no longer in effortless terms young ones and your infant became in effortless terms an afternoon previous- did she rather anticipate you to be professional after 24hrs- if that?!! It took me incredibly much a week to get the draw close of it. You sound mature sufficient to no longer permit those comments get to you. in the adventure that your doing a stable activity elevating your bub who's everyone else to decide you! get exhilaration from each and every 2d inclusive of your infant- while human beings permit you comprehend they advance up so without delay- they actually do! Congrats and robust success

Answer 4

hey
i know how u feel i was 19 when i had my son and the comments ppl said to me made me think was i a good mum am i going to beable to cope with having a child.
Then when the same thing happened when i had my daughter in 2002 by this poit i was 24 so i just said to one person who turned around and said ur 2 young grow up then have a baby. I said look are my children clean and well dressed and do they seem happy and when they said yes i turned around and said i may be young but my children have what they need and require so go judge ur self for being such a biget

good luck sweet cause as long as ur baby/children have what they need and require in this world ur doing ur best

Answer 5

I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of an answer. Just hold your head high and be a proud mom and teach your children by example.

You will enjoy the fact that you look so young later, when you look the age of your children. Someone once thought my son was my husband. And another time I remember the guys thinking I was my son's girlfriend.
LOL

I had to smile. Now with a Granddaughter of 12, the folks think I'm her mom. Enjoy that youth! ((((HUGS))))

Answer 6

Miss Manners says it is rude to point out someone is being rude
Bob says, Tell it like it is. The key to their humility is their humiliation.
Scuse me, but I don't remember asking for your opinion.
You must be God if you are so perfect.
Where is this glass house you live in?
Is minding my business why you have no friends?
Oh, I'm sorry you aren't getting any
Turn to the kid's ear & say,"I hope you are never as rude as they are" in a LOUD whisper. It is OK because you are not telling THEM they are rude.

Cmon guys, Help the little lady out by giving her some laughs!

Answer 7

well, just say thank you, then.each time they stupidly insult you, reply a thank you to them.

by the way, you are 29 year old and call yourself a teenage mom? i thought 29 isnt an age for a teenager!

i'm 24 and a momma too!i dont see my self as a teenager, i'd rather view myself as a woman!

just be patient with those bone-head!

Answer 8

Ask them why they were checking you out if they thought you were a teen. Esp if its older people asking you, because they had to be checking you out at least they had to do a second check to get a good look at you. If they thought that you were a teen then they really have no buisness even looking your way much less commenting on you having a child. mommyblues78

Answer 9

You have to be blunt! If I heard that comment I would simple turn around and say (Do you have a problem?). I am blunt like that, not sure if you can be to. That may make them think twice about commenting on someone out loud again!


Good Luck....

Answer 10

I'm a Grandmother now and still hear how young I look..people sometimes are shocked. I love it!! They may not be trying to be mean or rude. Let it go or just tell them your age.