to trust or not to trust, that is the question...?

Question

My partner has cheated in the past about 2.5 years ago, i was pregnant at the time and it shattered my world. We stayed together but rowed a lot and i cant seem to let it go..

He now swears that he has changed and will never do it again.
Recently i have noticed that he has joined all these "dating" sites on line ( he doesnt delete the History) He also has an email address that i cant access (we share passwords on all our emails) and i know that this is the one that he talks to "her" on.

should i be worried??

Answer 1

i think you know yourself what is going on

confront him with the facts before he can delete it all

the internet is now the biggest cause of relationship breakups

Answer 2

If you cant learn to trust him you should leave him. I know sometimes people are sorry to have made mistakes and don't do it again but sometimes there is a risk that they still are cheating . Know because Ive been through this ill tell you that you partner has the right to have some private time and is not gonna tell you every single thing but like i said with no trust you cant carry any relationship think it over for your sanity.

Answer 3

I would be very worried. If he has changed and will never cheat on you again! Why is he joining dating sites?
I think you need to have a talk with him, and lay it all out in front of him, the way you feel, why has he joined dating sites, Why is he talking to another women?
Maybe you should think about moving on. To make a better secure life for you and your child or children. It sure sounds to me like he is either cheating or thinking about it.
Good Luck
Kali

Answer 4

yes you should.because if you and him share email passwords why don't you have the password to the new one. you are right that is the one that he have all of those women he is talking to. just come out and ask him one day when you are at the computer.ask him for the password to the new email address if he get mad and ask you why or wont give it to you. then you will know for sure he is talking to other women. good luck trust him until he give you another reason not to.

Answer 5

Well first of all there is no reason for him to be signed up in these dating sites unless he is looking for someone else. If he won't let you see what his "private" email address contains then more then likely he is up to his old tricks again. There is no excuse for him to be signed up in dating sites unless he plans on meeting someone through those sites. Do yourself a favor & go to the dating sites that he is signed upp at. Sign up at them. Then you will be able to look at other members profiles & find his & see what it says. That should answer alot of your questions. If not all of your questions. Take care.

Answer 6

yes. dating sites? secret passwords? He is cheating on you or playing psychological games with your head. Not a nice guy by the sound of it. Do not stay together for the sake of your child it really aint worth losing your sense of worth. He is still his/her daddy and that will never change. You deserve better and the arguments may be affecting your kid (they do soak up atsmosphere and tension) anyway. Give yourself a break and kick him to the kerb. You will be alright trust me on that one. Take it easy now.

Answer 7

I think you know you should be worried, all you want is a confirmation from the rest of us. Yes you should be worried. Have you spoken to him about it? Tell him all that you know and exactly how you found out about this email address. You need to communicate with your husband. But in the future i'll suggest you don't go off your way to find out about thinks he tries to conceal from you, it will only save to hurt you. Remember what you don't know doesn't hurt you.

Answer 8

This one kind of hits home in a lot of ways....I would first like to say that everyone makes mistakes,and although cheating is a huge one....you did what you thought was right within you to take him back. When he said that he will never do it again,and then you noticed that he is joining dating sites....well dear....I think you know what most of us are going to tell you....his blatant disrespect for you is obvious, and he surely takes you for granted. I think maybe you have forgotten what it actually feels like to be happy,and loved unconditionally.....well....life is too short.....go out and find it, and leave him with his dating sites....Good luck

Answer 9

You already know the answer dont you. ? Get rid of him. I know its hard but in the end it will be worth it. Once a cheat, always a cheat, and I speak from experience. I let my husband cheat for years, then I plucked up the courage and ditched him. Life has never been so good. Leopards never change their spots.

Answer 10

He is cheating , that's for sure. Why should a guy go to a dating site , if he doesn't want to cheat ? Plus , he was cheating while you've been pregnant and this tells much about a person. Sorry to say, but this guy is not worth a bullet.
I would love to tell you something different, but I can't. Sorry ! :-(

Answer 11

if u ask me, dont u ever trust him. once a cheater is always a cheater. u have a life why only him? look, he is with u and also trying to date others, this shows that he is not trustworthy. get him out of ur life, u will feel diffecult but this step is very nesseary, otherwise u will NEVER BE HAPPY IN LIFE,and will keep doubting on him, by all this its u who suffer not him he will happy to be with u and also be happy to have affairs outside. plz dont ruin ur life when u know what is comming next. think about this and get ahead in life anf live it to the fullest.