one of my supervisors at work a couple weeks back, slapped me on the ***...then a couple days later, when we had to set a room in the dark...asked me 'do you trust me in the dark?' and then when i made a comment about him being some completely opposite to me, he replied with 'opposites attract'. a couple days after he rubbed his hand down my arm in such a way that it definately on purpose...when he passes me in the hall, he always bumps into me, or softly elbows me...lots of little things that i am totally confused by. hes told me numerous times before how shy he is with women etc. so i'm confused what this all means if hes so shy with women...why would he be acting this way with me?
i did like him a few months back, haven't for a while...since hes been doing this, i'm not sure what i should do...
2006-11-14 19:08:55 · 13 answers · asked by TeeKay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm not uncomfortable with it...
2006-11-14 19:12:36 · update #1
ok, i think i've written this all wrong...i don't have any problems with it...i like to guy...second of all, i'm not shy in the least. i don't really wanna know if it's sexual harressment because if i thought it was i would have done somerthing about it already...
2006-11-14 19:21:51 · update #2
first of all this is sexual harassment. this is your super and his behavior on the job is inappropriate. maybe him saying that he is shy is one of his pick up lines since it is quite obvious that he is more forward than any superior i've ever had. bad idea to date him he has too much authority over you. i never date people from my job cause if it doesn't work out you have to look at them anyway everyday. Not a good lifestyle to live with
2006-11-14 19:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by chrisarea_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an example of what sexual harassment is all about. He has placed you in a bad position by abusing his power. If you meet him outside of work eventually one of you will have to quit.....& it won't be him. Tell him that if he doesn't leave you alone you will report him for sexually harassing you. By the way, don't even begin to believe he's shy. Shy men do not behave this way. What the supervisor is is sly & taking advantage of his position. He's evil.
2006-11-15 03:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not being cute. It's not flirting. It's wanting to bang you.
You can either be receptive to it, or you can reject it. Because he's one of your supervisors, I'd recomend rejecting it. He can get fired for it because of his position, and you can get fired for it because of the image you would project by being receptive to something that shouldn't be tolerated in the workplace.
Upper management would just sweep the two of you right out the door and think nothing of it. Be smart. You're surely good looking, so you're not hurting for guys that find you attractive. Pick one away from the workplace. That way you won't have to go looking for another job.
2006-11-15 03:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel uncomfortable it doesn't matter if he's trying to flirt. You should confront him about the bahavior, and alert another supervisor so that you can be sure no retalitory actions will be taken against you.
2006-11-15 03:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with it then. You sound like you're wanting a bone. He senses this and that is why he's hitting ALL OVER YOU. Just ask him to dinner at your place and you'll be doing the wild thing shortly upon his arrival.
2006-11-15 20:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may see you as shy yourself so an easy target to work on,,you really haven't stopped these things from happening and it may just backfire as he doesn't know where the boundaries are,if you like him,,tell him this way isn't the way to impress women and if you do like him,,tell him this isn't the way to impress women,,it is quite tacky and sneaky to use this method of getting female attention and someone,,if not you will complain.
2006-11-15 03:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you say sexual harassment? Tell him the way he is acting is making you uncomfortable and you want him to stop it. Tell him you are not interested. Don't let this go on without saying something to either him or his boss.
2006-11-15 03:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes all it takes is to tell him how you feel. He may not realize that he isn't acting professional. Talk to him if it bothers you. If he continues to flirt then you should take it to the next level and report abuse.
2006-11-15 03:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by Pzee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea i think he is trying to flirt with you. He must like you in some way or he wouldnt be doing it.
2006-11-15 04:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by kissinyou07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's clearly flirting. If you're interested, let him know; and if you're not, make sure he knows his behavior is unwelcome.
2006-11-15 03:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋