i got enagged about 4 1/2 years ago and never really talked about getting married. i always say things to my b.friend how marriage is a waste of time and whats the point - but really i would like him to ask me ??? any ideas - and i dont want to ask him
2006-11-14 18:57:22 · 34 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Stop saying it is a waste of time for starters. Start hinting that you like the idea.
2006-11-14 18:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by CGS 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know lots of people will be saying things like 'He's already asked you', but I have been in the EXACT same situation and it was a tricky one!
The thing was, he proposed and we knew we didn't have enough money right then to get married. Then a few months later I got a new job and was content to carry on working, and bettering myself. We didn't really talk about marriage, other than me saying it was only a piece of paper and I didn't think it was that important etc.
Well it went on for a whole year until I was laying with him on the sofa on a warm summer day and I said 'I'd like to get married soon.'
He then confessed he had been thinking about it and four days later we gave notice and we are getting hitched in February. I guess it's about not being afraid to speak your mind and open up.
I would try dropping hints but my partner isn't great at getting hints! So just come STRAIGHT out and say something, pick the right moment like I did and just go for it. The results are so wonderful.
2006-11-14 19:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same as others have said really . You are already engaged to be married so there is no question to ask. Just say to him that you are starting to think differently about it all and feel like the time is coming to start thinking about the wedding. Just make it clear that you would like it and ask him if he fancies starting to plan. It is not actually asking him to get married you've both already agreed that you will get married eventually (by getting engaged) so the wedding is an inevitable end.
2006-11-15 06:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by sianmog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In correct etiquette when you get engaged it is then entirely down to the woman to set the date. The man is not allowed to say that's too soon or too far away!
But, in today's society that doesn't work.
Just tell him that you've re-thought your views on marriage and you can see why people do it now, so if he ever had the urge to ask you, you wouldn't say no anymore.
If you're considering marrying this guy you should be able to say it, after all you should be able to discuss almost anything with the person you'll spend the rest of your life with.
2006-11-14 19:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're already engaged then you don't have to ask him and he doesn't have to ask you you already did that. I'm sure he doesn't want to get kicked in the teeth by talking marriage since you feel it's a waste of time. How would you feel if the person you loved said there's not point to it? You better start off telling him you love him and have thought about spending the rest of your lives together let's start thinking of a date.
2006-11-14 19:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by uknowme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't asked you because you said all these negative things about getting married. You need to tell him that you think that getting married and spending your life with one person for the rest of you life is something that you can't wait to do.
Stop saying that marriage is a waste of time and start being positive about it, then hopefully he is gauge what you mean and ask you
2006-11-16 10:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you keep saying it is a waste of time he wont ask you as he will think you will turn him down, perhaps the next time you are invited to a wedding or watch one on TV you could say 'oh that's a lovely church so when are you going to ask me down the isle' or something like that try and let it sound spare of the moment and out of the blue and hopefully he will get the hint if not you may just have to tell him that you finally feel ready to get married ...good luck and when you do i hope you are both very happy
2006-11-15 08:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got engaged about 4 1/2 years ago, Why does he have to ask you?
All you have to do is say, "So when is the big day"
2006-11-15 01:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think marriage is a waste, why would you like him to ask you that when you don't want to ask him? I'm not sure what you look for as an answer. Well, I guess you could keep mentioning about how good marriage is instead of how bad marriage is to him. Then he might ask you. I really don't know what to tell you other than this.
2006-11-14 19:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by Este 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly stop saying its a waste of time babe, you know what men are like.. they are very slow on the uptake. Try dropping hints.. ie. A friend at work is getting married, her dress is gorgeous, it'll be great blah blah blah or buy a few wedding magazines and leave them lying about for him to find... Im sure he'll get the hint eventually babe, Good Luck x x x
2006-11-15 08:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by I-Love-My-Boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already engaged you don't need to wait to be asked and don't have to ask him. Being engaged usually means that he has asked you already. Stop saying marriage is a waste of time and start talking about doing it.
2006-11-14 20:51:00 · answer #11 · answered by Amy_Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋