she has managed to hang on fairly well untill latley she seems to always be in pain getting sick, etc. She has also started to be very mean to mean and my other siblings. Calling me on my birthday to tell me how she hates me and how she wishes I could feel what she feels. She even attacked my 8 year old so because he was crying and called him an asshole. My brother currently pays for everything for her rent, food etc. and she is so mean to him. Anyhow I was wondering is normal the way she is acting and how should I deal with this all ? She is constatly blaming her cancer on me and my brothers and saying were killing her etc.
2006-11-14 18:53:22 · 15 answers · asked by Crazydays 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
that's sad/... dont mind about her being mean ...maybe she feels sooo weak she cant do things she used to do for you guys...
make her feel you love her and how you appreciate all her works since you we're a baby..you should be sorry for things you've done ....before it's too late...
2006-11-14 18:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by LaDy in Luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to here that your Mom has cancer. I truly know what your family is feeling. I lost my mother, a heavy smoker, to lung cancer nine years ago. Like your situation the same thing happened to me with my father. I sought a second opinion and it verified the first diagnoses. Dad was placed on Hospice in his own home. I did a lot of internet research and was convinced that there was no hope at all short of a miracle. Miracles do happen so I will say a prayer for your Mom and family. God Bless and good luck.
2016-03-28 06:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like some sort of dementia to me. Try to arrange to talk with the doctor. The cancer may have gone to her brain.
If this meanness is something new, then you can probably be assured it has to do with the illness. Shelter your children from her until she is diagnosed, or explain to them that she is quite sick and doesn't mean what she says. You consider the same and don't take it to heart.
My Mom died of Alzheimer's 10 years ago; fortunately it took her quickly, but it didn't take very long in the beginning to where she wasn't the person who raised us. We had to understand that. Your mother most likely should be in a home to be cared for and you and your brother may have to take legal steps to see to that before she injures herself or others.
Your local health department may also advise you as to free help you may be entitled for counseling, or elder care help.
Best of luck to you.
J
2006-11-14 19:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it the cancer that is doing that to her because she is in so much pain. i have heard that people when they have cancer and be in so much pain that it make them mean like that. she is tired of hurting and she knows none of you know how she feels. toward the end they act like that.i knew a lady she was so sweet she had cancer but she never said anything bad or treated anyone mean when she was in pain all she said was Jesus help me. and people was saying that she was the only person they knew that had cancer didn't act mean or say mean things to people. she was a very sweet lady. that was because she was a Christan lady. that what your mom is doing is normal for people with cancer because of the pain. good luck
2006-11-14 19:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably scared and in pain. My sister recently passed away from cancer and she got the same way. She was in so much pain and the chemo and drugs that she was not herself. It is hard to deal with but be there for her. She will be gone soon and then there is nothing to be done.
2006-11-14 23:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEAR Crazydays,
I can relate to what you are going through,
I lost my husband on FEB 10, 06
HE WAS GIVEN 6MO LIVED 13MO.
The last 3 months he was not himself
he was a christian, but you would not have known by the things he said. he was a very loving and giving person. but at the last stage of his life he got very angry. he was in so much pain,and just wanted to go to heaven.he even prayed for that. GOD answered his prayer. all the family just overlooked it because we knew it was the cancer not him. I am Happy for you that your MOM has lived and fought her cancer.
It is hard to watch them go through this. Just show her a lot of love and support,and know it is not her,but her cancer and the pain.
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS
2006-11-14 20:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is going to sound Horrible. My Aunt Died of Breast Cancer she was like a mother to me. more than my own in fact, it was the same thing she lived Longer than expected, and towards the End she just was the Horrid ***** of my nightmares. she wrote a letter 3 weeks before she died and it basically said she wa sorry for being such a *****, but she didn't want us to see her in Pain. she was to the point of Evil and it killed her becauze she loved us enuff to not want us to be around to see her in Pain. of course we saw she was in pain and the last words from her to me were something to the effect of how she was glad i wasn't her child or something and for years it hurt when i thought about it. and then i found the letter when going through her things it made sense i know how you feel. i do recommend having a talk with your son about your his gramma not being herself and doing it soon. I hope that helps and never forget the Bronze Hammer.
2006-11-14 19:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by I Kick Babies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what kind of cancer your mom has but a-lot of cancer ends up going in the brain. Have you told her doctor about this? If not please do(asap) My mom had a brain abscess about 5yrs. ago and at first they thought it was a brain tumor..so I researched everything about cancer and the brain..If it has went to her brain it can totally change her personality, moody,mean,sad, and she could end up hurting herself or someone else and not even know she is doing it! Just remember this is not the same mother that raised you..she can't help what this disease is doing to her! Please contact her doctor and I wish you the best!!
2006-11-14 20:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Nana was not too nice when she died of cancer. Try to understand that when people are in that stage they are not the "real " them. However i would not allow your child near her since she acts this way. maybe take your child and yourself to a good family counselor. I am so sorry you are going thru this.
2006-11-14 19:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie all i have too tell you is there is two things that keep a person alive family and extras
my aunt was suppose to die in six months but ended living another 6 years
so i wish you the best with your mom and it wasn't gods will for her to go that soon.
2006-11-14 20:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by llazymary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope that is just the cancer talking but I have never known anyone that close with cancer. Pray for her. I will too.
2006-11-14 19:02:30 · answer #11 · answered by CGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋