My Mother is a manipulative, spoilt, greedy, selfish, woman, who only thinks about herself?

Question

My mother is like a spoilt child and my younger sister and I are sick of her manipulation and selfish behaviour.She has got worse since our beloved Nana died, my Mother has never once asked how we are doing or our children are coping with their loss- all she does is think about herself and what she is going to spend all our nanas money on ( none of us got left anything, as our mother even manipulated our nana into leaving her everything, which wasnt our nanas intentions at all, our mother knows this is wrong, but justifys it all by telling us it says everyting is left to her in the will- she omits the fact my nana was very frail, deaf and blind and under the threat of going into a nursing home when she wrote the will ) I have on many occassions not spoken to my mother for many years due to her unacceptable behaviour towards my nana, however we feel she has gone too far this time and morally wrong as Nana would never have left nothing to all the grandchildren-it wasnt her wishes at all

Answer 1

She's nana's daughter and regardless of how you feel she came first, she is next of kin. Call it what you want but that is what it is and will hold up in a court of law. Even if nana didn't write a will... she would have gotten it still being next of kin and all. Writing the will only circumvents a lot of legalities where the lawyers make out and the state can't get at it.
By the way...morality has nothing to do with it.
Just forget about it and hope that moma leaves your kids in her will.

Answer 2

Forget Nana's money. That is a lost cause. Forget your mother, but be SURE to tell her and everyone else why you are severing the family cord once and for all.

If mama wants you and the grandchildren, let her crawl, or get on with your life and don't look back. You'll be better off and so will your children.

Love and respect must be EARNED, those things DO NOT come automatically with parenthood.

Answer 3

I am sorry that you are going through this. my Nana died 20 some years ago and i just some of her stuff last week. i had to fight for it. Don't let your mom get 2 you. i know its easier said than done.i say don't speak to her when she acts that way. make sure you tell your kids about their Nana and how she was such a special person. again..i am so sorry that your mom has put you thru this. BTW..does your mom have any sister or brothers that might be able to give you at least something that was hers?

Answer 4

Apparently the apple didn't fall far from the tree. When a spoiled child acts up what would you do? Don't respond to her in a childish way. She knows that her actions are getting to you, so don't react at all. When you ignore a spoiled child, it takes away what power they may have had. Let her be herself, she's not going to change. But you can change the way you react to her. By being the 'adult' gives you the power of the situation. As she gets older it may only get worse, so you better have a plan if you want to maintain any kind of relationship with her. After all, she is your mommy.

Answer 5

my grandma is the same way except shes only selfish and watches T.V. all the time and when she asks you a question she doesn't listen to what your answer is (shes like 50 something).my mom says that my grandma's always been like that and my grandma does it for attention.one time she pretended to like my cousin better and i just ignored her and she was annoyed.my grand ma treats people like little kids and she thinks nothing else in the world is important except her.

so... you get it...your mom just might be jealous that shes not getting attention.she probably acted that way toward your Nana (when she really loved her) just for everyone to tell her to be nice and to at least pretend you like her.now that your Nana's gone she did that to get the most attention from the family when no ones really talking to her.

Answer 6

It seems to me you are more concerned about the money your nana left than anything else. What you can do is leave your mom ALONE, she will get older you know, she willneed you guys, then see what happens, evrything comes back together. good luck.

Answer 7

My mum became selfish too,she seems to see only her boyfriend now(my parents are divorced and I live with her).We were best friends till last year but since he moved with us...He often is rude to me but if I tell my mum she gets upset and she leaves the room.When he sees me talking with my mum he interrupts us or he calls her.I taught at suicide a couple of times but It's not worth dieing for them.I also taught of moving with my dad and sister but he got married again and now I have 2 step sister.My sister was the only one who could understand me but she went to college and I'm quite alone.My friends help me much but they don,t compare with my sis cause she went trough the same things like I did..

Answer 8

You responded your human being question. both events are completely conscious of the hazards. i imagine what you're really asking, is ought to a guy be held responsible for a baby if he needs the female to have an abortion and he or she refuses. the answer is definite, sorry that replaced into the probability you took once you had sex.

Answer 9

so, like what is your question? if you want to know what to do about it. meet with her and your sister and have it out and tell her how you feel. make her feel guilty about getting it all, when you know that the rest of the family should have gotten something.

Answer 10

unless you can contest the will then there is really nothing you can do.