my bf and i are in a good relationship, etc. well, anyways we go to the same school and he lives off campus as in a rented apartment and me on campus and in dorms. my parents know that we are back together after we broke up a while back ago, that i went to his place and have no problem. him on the other hand did not tell his parents that we are dating again or anything and last night was spending the night at his place and he told me this morning that if his dad comes to make some stupid excuse up like i was walking him to class-one of his eyes has 20 vision and the other has 60 or more and yeah with one eye he can see but no with the other unless he has glasses on and even so it is hard because of an eye infection he had. now i feel that he is emberassed or ashamed of us dating again since he will not tell his family which when we started dating his parents sort of knew a little about me but not a lot. he does not want to tell them because why? is he afraid their reaction will be bad
2006-11-14 18:21:50 · 12 answers · asked by icycrissy27blue 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh yeah, he said that if his dad came in and we were still in the apartment to tell him-his dad that-not the version of me spending the night at his place. his dad is cool and did not have a problem with anything but it is rather his mom who would be a little bit shocked if she found me at his place spending the night!
2006-11-14 18:31:19 · update #1
saw his parents: his mom once and his dad once when they were on campus and they gave me the feeling as though they hate me or dialike me. i asked my bf and told him or rather asked him if hs parents dislike or hate me and he said "no" and that it is a crazy idea. i was so close to his family and i still talk once in a while with his sis bu not with his parents and i feel awkward around them as though they hate me breaking up with their son or something and sometimes i forget how to even act around them
2006-11-14 18:48:02 · update #2
I could speculate for hours. My advice is: whatever happens, dont take everything at face value - you may end up making an issue that dosn't exist.
2006-11-14 18:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Chris R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like he must have said something before to his family about his relationship with you. He is clearly reluctant to tell his family your on-again relationship. Nothing super sensitive about this case,so you may wana ask him straight away.
If you think his explanation makes sense then just take it slow from there. You could even draw some time to pay his family a visit with a small basket of gift,see for yourself how they would react.
That way everyone's clear and happy.
2006-11-14 18:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you had broken up, he probably cried on his family's collective shoulders and made you out to be the bad guy. So now he's embarrassed to admit to them that you and him are back together. Tell him when he is man enough to stand by you, you'll be spending the night again, not before.
2006-11-14 18:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you ask me, any man who is serious about a girl will tell the parents. the only thing i can think is that maybe he isn't sure it will work out and doesn't want to jump the gun but if he is willing to have you stay over then he should be willing to make his parents aware. did you ask him why? if i were you, i'd want a good reason. its more likely that your for sex rather than he is embarrased by you!!!
2006-11-14 18:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak as if it were me. So, here goes: Maybe his parents are a little overbearing, and if he tells them of a hook up, then a break up, then a hook up, they'll nag him to death about making up his mind, and yada yada yada. I agree with what one of the other guys said, you don't wanna make a big issue out of nothing.
2006-11-14 18:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats possible yes, but i think that he might think its none of their concern and only looking out for your feelings. Because its yours and his thing, it has nothing to do with his parents.
2006-11-14 18:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by I-wanna-be-alone-4-ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs to decide what he wants and learn to be honest with himself.
You, on the otherhand should ponder the thought that he is just using you.
2006-11-14 18:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Insane Truths 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but for what reason I don't know. ASk him when he is going to make the announcement. If he doesn't, leave him.
2006-11-14 18:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still a boy and afraid of what his parents might say...
2006-11-14 18:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being stupid and immature. Tell him that u will not stand for this nonsense and that he has to be honest.
2006-11-14 18:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋