My son grandmother is a functional alcoholic. My son loves to see her should I stop him?

Question

She calls, sends gifts. Even goes to church He's 9 and does understand why grandma needs Hennesey for her nerves. She cries when he doesn't come over to see him.And my son cries too what should I do?

Answer 1

My grandma was a functioning alchoholic. She was such a wonderful woman. She just couldn't cope with the way things are. I loved her with all my heart and if my mother had denied me of her I would have resented my mother and missed out on a very important life lesson. The lesson? Drinking kills. My grandma died when I was 13. She was 53. God rest her soul. I hope you come to a solution that will be good for everyone.

Answer 2

My father-in-law is a functioning alcoholic and he is a terrific grandfather. You'd never know he was an alcoholic except that he smells like it most of the time. Otherwise he is responsible, caring, fun and a very nice man. I wouldn't leave my kids alone with him but I would never stop them from seeing him all together.

Answer 3

I wouldn't deny him his grandmother. Sometimes, folks mask their pain in different ways. Some use food, others drugs and others alcohol. If she is functioning, don't deny your son the beauty of having a grandmother in his life. It doesn't make her a bad person. You need to learn tolerance and so does your son so he can learn to accept others regardless of their faults and imperfections. If she doesn't get so inebriated that she cannot function, then I say let them be. You stated that she is functional. That is all I can say.

Answer 4

absolutely, just don't leave him alone with her...