How to get your love of your life back?

Question

I was dating a girl named brandi. we dated for 16 months. I seen her eveyday. I became part of her family. she said things to me like" i want to be with your forever honstly" im only 17 and shes 16 soo it was hard to belive her. I had never said i love you to a girl before, becuse i wanted to say it to the girl i realy truly hounstly ment it too. i feel like a moron becuse i said it i a dumb way. i mumbeld it to her and made her gusse what i was saying. after a few months of I love you's she started telling her parents she was ganna merry me. (we went and got a enganment ring). Her parents wear ok with it and eveything. I finaly relized i wanted to stay with her,and honstly wanted to just see her smile and laugh. we got into a argument cuz i lost my job (but was alredy getting another one) she said it was over...='(. i called her that night . she said give it day or two and she still loved me . She promised me she would stay with me. 1 day later she is with another man. what do i do

wel thnx for advice i also have talked to her. she clamed well promised me she dosent love him. i dono what with her. she we talk like we are freinds in persone. but over the phone she tell's me that she made a huge misstake ad wants me back one day... then the next she has a wat diffrent adduite tords me. and aout my job i graduated high school alredy with a 3.7 gpa. i have a job making around 1300$ a week helping negotiating tax's with a finacial company.i did eveything i thought she wanted and she made me fall in love with her. iv'e been told im good looking and can do better . but i can't seem to even look at another girl. darn i got it bad ae?. im confused and dont know if i should move o or wait. moving on is hard and waiting taks forever ...curse love. well the bad of it anyway plz help agine

i would also like to add once agine thnx for all your help i sorta been talking to a girl named kyla she's sweet realy nice.but im scared becuse what if brandi relized she made a misstake=( what to do . once agine your answer are making me feel better and helping there are nice people out there thnx=]

hmm . that a good idea. her family loves me and wants me around not danile( he is a loser works at dairy queen no money droped out of school or attempting to try it=\) he is no good got her in trouble alredy her mom and her dont talk much at all anymore her parents want me with her(and her dad's a tuffe=p) and btw is there away to post on a certian post you guys leave cuz im answerig through here for more advice thaks agine

still gotta thank eveyone for there help iv'e never asked anyone on relationship advise soo thankyou all .. i will give kyla a try (ment no disrespect laddies/wemon ment all respect) thats something else i have to add when me and brandi arguee i would never curse at here never even called her stupid ..ut she sure cused me out with everyname in the book i always respected her even in the worst of arguements mabey i was to soft? well mabey she will find a true @$$ and remember me ..well i think i shouldent be there.. i think.

but i cant say all bad things about her she was extremly sweet and caring when she was always there for me when i needed her. thats why i love her and its soo hard to move on=\

Answer 1

She definately dodnt love you. In life if something or someone was meant for you, they will always stay by your side irrespective of the circumstances you go through. Dont crack your head thinking of this gal, you will definately get someone who will appreciate you and treat you right. Just wait and be patient.

Answer 2

Honestly, you will be making one of the most horrible mistakes of your life if you marry at this age.
You need to get an education and enjoy getting to know other girls so that you will know what you really want out of life.
The way that relationship was going, you would most likely be divorced, have at least one child, and be paying child support within 2 or 3 years.
Don't fall into that trap. Make a 5 year plan.. Where do you want to be in 5 years? A married man with 2 or 3 kids, working at a minimum wage job and being stuck. OR.. Have a good degree under your belt, a future to look forward to and a way to support a wife????

Answer 3

Honestly, I have been down that road and it is horrible. Almost the exact same situation, except that we hooked up a couple more times and each time people kept us apart. We were a Romeo and Juliet type couple, we would always find our way back together. I still think about her, but there is no way that we could continue because you lose a piece of your relationship each time you break up. Her family, now thinks less of you- and she may still love you, but will never trust you again. Since she is with another guy, it is just closure for her. I suggest if you want to try to get back with her, move in slow and try to prove that you have matured, changed, and are a new man. Show her your revitalized and anew. Take her out a couple times and test her feelings, move in and become the comfort guy. If it comes to you having sex, do it. Keep giving her that until you feel right and pop the question. Don't wait man, do it tomorrow- don't let her walk out of your life.

Answer 4

Get out with the skin still on your back! You're awfully young. Try thinking about building a future for when that perfect girl that will treat you right comes along. What about furthering your education? Getting a high-paying job? Investing in a house? You've got tonnes of time. Stick with plan A and you may be saddled with a child before you know it and perhaps an absentee wife and having to pay child support.

Answer 5

Unfortunately when you are a teenager it varies in terms of how mature you are....everyone matures at different rates. It sounds like she wasn't really in love with you. A person who is truly in love wouldn't shut you out like that and break up with you over something like the loss of a job. She also would not have started seeing another guy so soon after your breakup if she truly loved you. It sounds like she didn't know what she really wanted at the time, perhaps she thought she loved you at one point and she was just too immature.....

I can tell by your post that you really do love her but if the feelings are not reciprocated there is not much you can do. I know how that feels when you love somebody so much and they don't love you back. It is incredibly painful. In time you will hopefully come to realize that she wasn't as serious as you were and that you need to move on to someone who is worthy of your love and affection. I hope you got your ring back because you are entitled to have the engagement ring returned to you since she broke off the engagement. It's your legal right...

Good luck....

Answer 6

Hey man, if you truely want to get her back with you. You need to create attraction in her towards you. Have her start to chase after you not you after her.. Don't be so clingy. Example man, Call her and tell her you will be at such and such place, and tell her to wear what you would like her to wear. Also tell her you will be at that place for a while, she can come anytime she feels like it. Don't call her back at all that night, if she does not show up . Also man, try and be playful with her, try bowling with her, play around a little with her, do unexpected things to her. If she does something good, give a swat on the but. If she does something bad, give her a kiss. Keep her guessing man, you will intrique her, and she will eventually focus only on you. My friends have the same kind of issues as you guys do, I told them the exact same thing, and there back with thier girlfriends. If they don't listen, they are worst off. Do yourself a big favor man, Keep your emotions to yourself. Yes you love her, but, don't tell her right away. She says I love you to you. You respond I love me too. Throw her for a loop.
Hang in there.

Answer 7

No matter what she is doin now. ANY FEMALE that loves you will be on your side. If you still have love for her confront her on what she is doin with that other clown. If she doesnt want to be with MOVE ON. You are a young man and you have time to be with any female your heart desires. Dont let any girl send you down the road pain. I had to let go of my high school love and it hurt like hell. I lost so much time bein sad over her. Dont let go of needed time.

Answer 8

you seem like a smart guy. dont waste your time on women like brandi. there are too many women out there. she sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too- be strong and find someone who will treat you better than this. there is a special girl out there just for you- get out there and get her!!! oh yeah, who cares if brandi is making a mistake! think about yourself for a change!!!!! good luck and best wishes!!

Answer 9

You seems to be a thorough gentle man and over sensitive. Just forget her and find a new one for you.

Answer 10

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