we have both been married before & we live together?

Question

should we register or not? Is it tacky or ok? I have no idea!!!

Answer 1

I'm in the same situation. I would announce your wedding to close family and friends and wait for a little feedback. For example, your mom may let you know that Aunt Susie is wondering where you are registered. I personally would not register. After all, you are two adults who are already living together. You are not two people starting new lives together, you have already established a life with this person. Your wedding should be be just about the marriage not the gifts.

Answer 2

Registering is never tacky, guests like to buy wedding gifts even at second weddings - it's how the registery is announced that is tacky. Do not include any gift information with the invitations, that is tacky. Instead, let family and friends spread the word for you, or post it on your wedding website.

Answer 3

I would say, go ahead and register. People may think it's "tacky" but those same people will think the situation is more tacky. You can't worry about it because you are doing a good thing in getting married...everyone will have a different opinion about this question. Go for it, just being practical here...people will want to know what you need.

Answer 4

here in Aus VERY FEW people ""register"" for gifts- but usually consult with the bride or her family.
I attended a wedding recently where the couple had been living together for some time & had 2 children; they felt they had all the material things they really needed sohad the following words on the back of their invite

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Because at first we lived in Sin
We've got the sheets & teh rubbish bin
A gift from you would be best
But we'd prefer a donation to our Treasure Chest

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They then had a ""wishing well"" set up at the reception on a table near the door & the guest book.
Guests just placed cards/money in the well.
my son went to a wedding some time back where the couple requested gift certificates from a specific department store; then they could be used collectively for a larger item that the couple wanted
these are just different options for you to consider. I have seen where couples who feel they dont really need anything request that their guests make a donation to a particular charity in lieu of gifts.

anyhow - regardless of what anyone else thinks do what you want.

Answer 5

Oh no. No no no.

You only get to register once. Now if you didn't for your first weddings, and if you did not have a celebration, perhaps, but it's tacky.

A registry is traditionally for your china/silver/crystal patterns. The new idea is to register for everything and anything and yikes it's crazy. If you must register for the traditional items, I would say do it, as some people do rely on registries, otherwise no.

Answer 6

Don't register. It will look tacky and greedy. If people want to get you a gift, they will.

Answer 7

You got married once already. That was the big one. Don't register. That would be considered rude. If you are going to marry, do a smaller ceremony and don't expect the kind of gifts you got before. For Pete's sake, a cream colored dress is most tasteful. NOT WHITE!

Answer 8

Do both of you think its tacky? Then don't :) Easy. Otherwise, i suggest, sign the paper! Congrats if you're doing the latter.

Answer 9

I was in the simliar situation and we did register, because immediate family had asked us to because both of our families lived out of state. I dont feel its tacky, its a celabration of you two not the others....

Answer 10

Yes, it is tacky

If you don't register, people will hopefully just give you cash,
but you will always have a few who think it is rude to give cash as a gift, so they will spend $100 on a metal bowl that you can't use & don't want.