I worry about my son, his father had nothing to do with him since he was born. Now all a sudden he has been trying to contact me and threatens custody, Can he get it?
2006-11-14 17:05:45 · 11 answers · asked by B M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No I never filed for child support because I didnt want to go to court or anything and yes my current BF has been raising my son as his own
2006-11-14 17:14:45 · update #1
My son is 5 mo old. I have been with my current bf for the last year. He denied that the baby was his because I left him and got with my new bf. I have done nothing havent even heard from him since I told him that my son was born. He lives 2 states away and I dont want my son to have to be dragged between 2 states and he already has a dad that loves and cares for him. He was there during my whole pregnancy , birth, ect. He has been the one supporting us. The bio-father has done nothing
2006-11-14 17:25:08 · update #2
Again I dont want my son dragged through the courts and stuff. We are doing great without having to see this stranger who has denied him from day one! why should he get visitation
2006-11-14 17:29:08 · update #3
My current BF is the one listed on the BC. Can't I just deny a paternity test?
2006-11-14 17:33:24 · update #4
There is a lot of variables to your question that have to be known before your question can be answered. If he is indeed the father, then there won't be too much that can keep him from getting shared custody with visitation. If I were you I would find out where he has been keeping himself and what kind of habits he has been involved in.
On the flip side, is there a reason that he is threatening you with a custody battle? Have you been involved in something you shouldn't be? I'm not saying you are, just a person would need to see the whole picture.
I'm assuming you have been a loving wonderful mother and all of a sudden a dead beat dad wants to be in the picture. Some how is there money involved? For instance, if for some reason he is all the sudden diagnosed as disabled, he may want the child so he gets more money, not because he loves the child. Do your homework, find out what's going on.
Or, maybe he has changed. Maybe he sees the error of his ways. If so, your son needs a father. To grow up to be a man of character, your son needs good manly examples in his life. Find out about your ex. Possibly, this could be a good thing for your son.
2006-11-14 17:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried being mutual about letting his father visit (supervised) sometimes? maybe if you guys came to an agreement just between you two, you could prevent having to deal with the court system and more tension between the father and you.
talk to him about it first and see what happens. make sure you set the rules, day and times and make sure that you are there too to supervise his visit. you are in control in this situation.
i think that you shouldnt let it worry you too much. family court will see that he has not been involved with the child since he as born and would probably grant him minimal or mutual visits with your son.
if he is threatening you with custody just go ahead and file for it on your own just to be safe. doing this will probably help you in having full custody first. if the father is doing the whole court thing fighting for custody, the court will probably see you as just being greedy with your son.
goodluck.
2006-11-14 17:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he ever played a financial roll with your son? did he sign off all his rights to him? Do you have another person as a "father Figure? " Maybe you should look into custody laws in your state on the web to figure out what is applicable
2006-11-14 17:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by skylersmom2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he can, even Fathers that are in their children's lives don't usually get custody unless the Mother proves to be unfit or can't care for the child. I'd call a lawyer and talk to them, you can usually get a free consultation. Don't wait.
2006-11-14 17:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going through exactly what you are. And my daughter is 3 1/2. Is there any dirt you can get on him to keep him from seeing your son?
2006-11-14 19:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by hello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not very likely. Has he kept up on his support payments? He'll have to go to court to get visitation. You would have to be in pretty sad shape for him to get custody. Courts favor the mother.
2006-11-14 17:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your son's age, I think it would be hard for him to suddenly win custody. Stand your ground, your son knows you not his father. You were the one there, where was his father? Don't let him intimidate you - talk to an attorney.
2006-11-14 17:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have nothing to worry about, he's obviously trying to get back at you for some reason. How is he going to prove that he can be a better parent after abandoning his child. I can almost guarantee he will not get custody
2006-11-14 17:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is going on if your son is old enough, 12 in my state, he can choose, I would consult with a lawer and fast.
2006-11-14 17:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think he can unles he can prove that you have been an unfit mother which i seriously dout. i hope thinks work out for you.
2006-11-14 17:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋