i am obsessed with looking in mirrors and obsessed with if i look "fat' in certain clothes. I look in the mirror and say urgg i look gross, but everyone tells me i'm not fat. One time my friend got so fed up and went up to these random guys and was like "ok honest opinion is my friend Jessica (me) chubby or fat? and they all said no and said i was really pretty/. Even when i went to the doctor he said i was at a perfect weight, so why do i see myself as fat? Could it all just be in my head? I take medicine for OCD could this have something to do with it?
2006-11-14 17:02:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Self confidence is almost impossible for a woman to have nowdays because we are inundated with the image of the "perfect woman" constantly. And let's face it, very few of us measure up to that standard. Since you didn't mention any anorexia, bulemia, self mutilation or anything like that I don't think you have BDD, or Body Dysmorphic Disorder. You do, however, sound like you are at risk for it. BDD is where a person's body image is so different from reality that they are driven to obsessive acts to obtain the perfect image. I suggest you talk to your doctor about your concerns. They can get you in touch with a mental health professional who can help you develop a healthy sense of self esteem. The most important thing is to nip the problem in the bud before it becomes a serious issue to your health. All the best to you :)
2006-11-14 17:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by danni_d21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's in your head. How many times are other people going to have to tell you before you listen? Why keep asking if you are fat, when you will not accept any answer but "yes?"
That's not the problem, though, the problem is that you care so much.
There are far more serious things to worry about in your life and the world around you than whether or not you are fat.
Stop being so vain, superficial and self-absorbed.
2006-11-15 01:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The OCD is a possibility. Here's another. In the fashion industry, only the models who are stick think seem to make it anywhere in the biz...this gives girls a distorted sense of what should be sexy to men. Let's face the truth though. Women were meant to have some curves...stick thin women don't have these...they have bones. Love your curves...I have talked to many guys on the subject of weight...they like the curves girl...accept that you are a beautiful and figured girl...don't think you're fat. From what you said, you're not. Listen to them...not just hear them.
2006-11-15 01:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I have a friend who is absolutely thin, but can't stop saying she is fat, and she wears the people out by discussing her diet. Have you ever thought it could come from the feeling of insufficient attention people pay to you? As for me, when I lack attention, I start boasting or pretending unhappy so that somebody comes up to me and asks "What's the matter with you?" Open your eyes and see how many nice people and friends you have around you, they love you and you are happy to be with them. Look around and see how beautiful the world is, and how different are the creatures living in it, all of them unique. And after that you can think of the things people really can be sad or worrying about - their parents, children and beloved ones. There are disabled and just ugly people, and you are happy to be pretty and unique and to be surrounded by so many nice people!
2006-11-15 01:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by Victory A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what OCD is but as the doctor says your weight for height and age is good then why worry .Everytime you start to think you look bad tell yourself I look great keep doing this every day until the negativity is gone.
2006-11-15 01:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all of the eating disorders and other problems with weight ALL OVER society nowadays, you may be gorgeous but think you're fat, based on what people said on TV. Your perspective is most likely biased from what's all over the place in present-day society, and my guess is you're not the only one.
2006-11-15 01:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by Teh Questioner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you are not fat. you are a little brainwashed by popular media where most girls are almost, if not, anoxeric... another thing is that you are probably young, so most of your life is in upheaval all the time, and your appearance is one of the things that you have absolute control over. so, when you look into the mirror and say that you are fat, it is your way of telling yourself that you are in control of yourself.
2006-11-15 01:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by nimkiw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counciling
2006-11-15 01:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by pitman L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a distinct possibility.
2006-11-15 01:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are fine just accept that you arent perfect and neither is anyone
2006-11-15 01:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by dan h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋