How do I ask this really really shy girl out?

Question

I'm 18 and a senior in high school. I've been wanting to ask this girl out for some time now. She is really, really shy. She's the type who won't start a conversation but will talk when someone starts first. We don't really "know" each other, not even names, but we've talked once in the library. She leaves directly at lunch because she takes the bus home. I notice that from a distance she will glance at me and see what I'm doing, then she'll hurry to the bus. We don't have any classes together so its really hard to get in touch with her. My question is this, how do I start something with this really really shy girl? Should I try and get her email or something to get to know her first or should I flat out ask her out so we can get to know each other there? She's really shy so I don't want to come on too strong, but enough to make my point. If anybody has any ideas on how to start something worth while and any ideas on places to ask her out to, please post them.
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!!!

Answer 1

awww,
my sister is just like that. i say pull her aside and talk to her, when your friends aren't around. be genuine and honest, don't pull any ghetto hook-up crap. just say you've noticed her around, ask if she wants to go to lunch sometime on the weekend or something. but note: you may have to try more than once, like my sister, this girl may be skeptical of people, that's why she's shy and doesn't talk much...
good luck, the shy and quiet ones are usually the most down to earth and intelligent ones!!!
; )

Answer 2

That sounds like what happened to me. What that guy did was he waited for me at the bustop everyday even though his bus wasn't at that bustop. I would see him walk away form the bustop once I got on the bus. There was once or twice when he took the bus with me for a bit of the way even though he lives at the other end of town. I mean that time we haven't even talked to each other yet but he just sat behind me on the bus and dropped off in the middle of no where. It was very sweet (though we didn't get together in the end) because I had a bit of crush on him too but I guess it could be creepy if he came across as a stalker lol. It wasn't until I went up to him and said hi that we started talking.

Maybe you could wait for her at the bustop and say hi and make some casual conversation. Do that a couple of times. Make her feel that you are going out of your way to get to know her. That'll be so sweet. Don't have to ask her out right away yeah? Or you could get hold of her friends and find out more about this girl from them....her friends will surely spread that *someone* seems to be interested in her

Answer 3

Considering she is very shy, it probably would not be the best idea to flat out ask her out on a date, when you don't know her at all! Because of this, if you take her out on a date, you know absolutely nothing about this girl and she will probably be uncomfortable telling you her life story at this point.

Definitely get to know her first! At least, get to know her name! Getting her e-mail and/or talking with her on IM would definitely show to her that you are interested. Why else would a guy that barely knows want her e-mail address? That is a big, helpful hint that you can give to her.

Once you get to the place where you really want to ask her out, do it CASUALLY. Say something like, "A couple friends and I are going to go catch a movie this weekend, wanna come?" Something like that. Since she is very shy, I think she would be more comfortable going out on a group date FIRST.

Answer 4

Just go up to her when she is having lunch, and ask her is this seat taking, and she says yes, then start talking to her, and maybe ask her if I could meet you for lunch the next day. Then gradually you will be able to ask you out. You know every time she gets on the bus she stares at you, so that is telling you that she is interested, and she is waiting for you to make the first move since she is all ready shy. So go for it, and see what happens. Because you will never know if you don't ask. If she is not interested than you made a good friend to talk to at lunch time. Go for it before somebody asks her out.

Answer 5

I used to be that shy. I've noticed lots of shy people like someone who is outgoing. It's hard for someone who is shy to speak up, so having someone outgoing that always has something to say makes it easier. I found it soooo sexy. Don't ever be cocky, but one day tell her she looks pretty, or say something like, you have the coolest eyes. something like that. I swear she will go home and think about that. Keep going up to her and just start talking to her about school, classes, work...etc. You have to be the brave one in this case. Eventually mention that movie that youve been waiting to come out in theatres, then ask her what shes doing that weekend. see if she'll go with you.

Answer 6

it's good that you know her routine almost so you have a good sense of what's the best time to ask her. don't ask her when she's in a rush to get to class or something. just ask her flat out if you can get to know each other on a date. i'm shy too, so i know what it's like. you have to initiate the conversation but once you get to know her she'll become more comfortable and be herself with you. good luck!

Answer 7

The easiest way to ask them out is to invite them to your local coffee house. That's not intimidating at all you can have one drink, if it doesn't work you both leave, nothing lost. Maybe, you can say I have an extra ticket to a certain event, would you like to come?

Answer 8

The email idea is a good one or ask her out for some ice cream or something.

Answer 9

Just ask her out. What have you got to lose, ask her to go with you and get something to drink. Maybe what she likes. If she is to shy , gave her lots of juice, sound sincere

Answer 10

I have the same exact problem as you do. I would learn her name first, then ask her to join you for an ice cream treat. If she likes you, you're in the hot zone.