I am 25 years old and came out of two bad relationships prior to this one (I was cheated on both times) now this one is hitting the fan. She was also in an abusive relationship for six years and I am her second serious relationship(She is also 25 years old). Things were great before she met all my friends and family and maybe she is to honest but she had to tell me everything she hated about each one. I let it go and continued the realtionship now 1 1/2 years later of her telling me it's not her fault that I dont have any of my close friends left, though she makes me feel guilty anytime I want to hang out with them. My girl friends were wiped out as soon as the realationship began. I am no angel I have lied to her in the begining about my ex's calling, with whom I had no intentions of talking to; just lied to keep the peace. Now I listen to her ***** more and more everyday about nothing she hates something about everyone at school so she keeps our distances from them. I give up!
2006-11-14 16:56:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your girlfriend sounds like a very insecure and immature person, especially for 25. If she trusted you and her ability to keep you satisfied, she wouldn't try to cut your friends and family out of your life. If I were you I would cut her loose and look for a woman who is confident enough in herself to stay away from all that adolescent drama and negativity.
2006-11-14 17:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by danni_d21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are both a bit to blame. You for allowing her to control who your friends are. If it were only one or two of your friends (females don't count..most females don't want their BF's to have CLOSE female friends.) Also, your family.. If they've done nothing to make her dislike them, then I think she has a problem. GF's come and go but your family is your family. That's your job to speak up and not allow her to drive a wedge between you and your family.
I wonder if she is just so jealous that she wants NO one in your lives except the two of you.
Or she may just be a very negative person who will never be happy no matter who she is with.
Either way.. I would not think you're having much fun in this relationship.
I would move on to someone who is a little more positive in life and looks for the good in people rather than always the bad. Otherwise, you'll both end up with no friends, a horrible relationship with your family and very lonely people who hate each other.
2006-11-15 01:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by LittleBitOfSugar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It at this point sounds like its not a matter of, your fault, or hers, But it is definately not a healthy relationship for either of you. You both have been hurt and that in it self can cause the tension in your newest relationship. She also does not sound happy. I think in my opinion, its time to sit down and talk about going your seperate ways. You are giving up and that sounds so depressing. You two dont sound like you were meant to be together. I totally believe that we all have soul-mates, and this sounds like your soul-mate from hell. You decide, heavenly soul-mate or devilish soul-mate. Nobodys to blame here. Your probably a great boyfriend. Shes probably a great girlfriend......for other people. This is not a healthy realationship, and thus can cause mental damage, and actual physical symptoms as well. If you care about your well being and even hers, perhaps you should part your ways. Good Luck to ya...
2006-11-15 01:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by cjpburgess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. In a good relationship each ones keeps and maintains friendships they had prior. You have time with your partner but you each have time separate to spend with other people. If you happen to like the same people, bonus. I think the fact that she hates everyone you know should set off alarm bells - if it was only one friend okay but all of them? Someone that loves you would put up with your friends to a little to keep you happy.You need to set some ground rules about this stuff. I think she has the problem, its a kind of abuse to cut you off from everyone. If the man did it - there would be hell to pay. This should be viewed the same way.
2006-11-15 01:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a slap of reality. The world doesn't go by her rules. Sit her down and tell her what you've been bottling up so long. Truth is always better.
2006-11-15 01:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it matters who is to blame. what matters is what you learn from a relationship. look at the things that you know you did wrong and resolve not to do them again. before you get involved with someone again, think really hard about what you want. best of luck to you.
2006-11-15 01:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly it is her, She manage to have all your Friends not to come around . Of her honesty? Either you can confront her about this, or just say can we have a timeout for a couple of weeks. Can you do that?
2006-11-15 01:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by gemini19572001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares who's to blame? Just break it off and find a girl you can be happy with.
2006-11-15 01:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both are
go to a counsler
2006-11-15 01:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by dan h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋