i had a bf for 2 yrs. and he lived with me. thru out these two yrs we had problems. sometimes he wouldnt help pay bills. then when he did i had to almost whine and complain to get him to do it at a decent time. one time he didnt buy no food and i had no money. its like he new i had to depend on him so he was controlling the situation. sometimes he would go on for days saying he was going to help. and i would have to wait and then turn around and ask him again. is this a form of abuse? im not with him anymore
2006-11-14 16:13:00 · 24 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was simply a looser- dont let him occupy your thoughts. Learn the lesson and MOVE on. You are better for having known him- cause you wont let another freeloader move in on you again. RIGHT?
2006-11-14 16:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by tbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a form of manipulation which can become abuse for sure...the only thing you need to know is that you do not need some one who will only drain you when you have things and will only flaunt it or make you beg when you don't..this guy has no redeeming qualities and I would suggest that you don't even waste time questioning his actions.
2006-11-15 00:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by elysialaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than some procastinator who cant take care of you properly! You need to get a man who can respect you and treat you properly. A relationship is supposed to be 50/50 both do their share and make it work. Dont ever settle for second best! Good thing your not with him anymore! Good for you! =)
2006-11-15 00:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by thisiswhatisay! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound pretty manipulative.
I would suggest you go back to school and then get a job, or a trade, where you can better support yourself and don't have to rely on someone else to do it. That is a bad situation to put yourself into - having to be dependent on someone else like that.
2006-11-15 00:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds pathetic to me. It's like he is so weak and he wants to appear powerful by manipulating you. My ex is somewhat like that. He always uses those big words or abreviations that he knows I don't understand and waited for me to ask him what does that word mean,so he feels knowledgable. How pathetic.
2006-11-15 00:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not with him any more, then why do you care? ALso, no, it is not a form of abuse, it is control. BUT he can only control you if you LET him.
2006-11-15 00:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. SmartyPants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's just call being selfish... and trying to control life.. but no not abuse... he did pay aleast but wanted you to do more for him, to be giving his money to spend on bills.. that was so rude of him and good that you left him.
2006-11-15 00:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by nandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! but nothing feels better than complete independence
2006-11-15 00:16:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a form of both, but mostly he is controlling. If he was controlling that, then what else was he controlling?
2006-11-15 00:16:41 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes not with you anymore you shouldnt be depending on him to support you. be independent and show him you can live without him manipulating you when your in need.
2006-11-15 00:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by itstony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋