My gf is a tricky one. I don't want to change her, but I want to know what could be going on w/ her so I can offer the best support I can, and she's really locked up about something. We talk about stuff like this and inevitably, she just almost freezes. We have made it a little further into discussions over time, which is why I want to keep this up. My question is, what sorts of things, irrationally strong emotions, tendencies, and (big one for me) relationship patterns might one taking berevemant especially hard experience/display? She lost her father several years ago (car acc.) as young girl.
2006-11-14 15:49:13 · 1 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My advice is - don't push the issue. She will eventually open up. Perhaps there is more than what's truly going on and I'm guessing you sense that in her. There may be something she wants to tell you - feelings, emotions, perhaps something in her past that really scarred her. Patience is key, especially if you care about her. It's hard, but you must do this in order to help her. Reassure her that you worry about her and leave it at that. There could be trust issues as well. When you talk to her about it - whatever it is - does she not answer? or change the subject? If she is, she's withdrawling/avoiding and that's not where you want to go. As I said, the best thing to do is be patient. Let her know she can trust you and I'm sure she'll open up in time.
2006-11-14 16:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋