Well i been going out with this one boy for about 2 weeks and my problem is that i am not really comfortable around him but i just don't know why tho.And i am really confused about our relationship.And i don't get it or understand of what my problem is.I been going out with this person 2 times.And for my first time i was going out with him i was scared of lossing my friendship with him.And now for the second time i just don't feel verry comfertable around him no more.Please try to understand my queshtion as the best as you can.Does it sound like that i should brake up with him or keep going out with echouther.Or is it because i am very shy.Please help me!Well if i do have to brake up i just don't want to hurt him the second time.And he is upsest with me.And i am 14 and he is 13.Please help me!
2006-11-14 15:45:10 · 6 answers · asked by soccer2011 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry i messed up it is not 2 weeks i been going out with him it is 8 weeks i been going out with him.Sorry for my mess up.
2006-11-14 16:02:58 · update #1
so does this mean i should stay with him or brake up?
2006-11-14 16:11:23 · update #2
In my past experience, I have found that you should listen to your gut instinct. If deep down you don't feel comfortable with this guy, it's probably because you know you don't really want to be with him in a romantic way. If he can't accept this then he was never really your friend in the first place. You shouldn't string him along and pretend to want to be with him- you're going to end up hurting him even more in the end. Besides, you are so young!!! Why are you wasting your precious time worrying about immature boys? I did the same thing when I was your age though, so I can't say too much :) But I can promise you that one day you will meet the right guy that will make your heart go pitter-patter and before you know it, you're registering for wedding gifts! ;-p This happened to me recently and it was SO worth the wait! I'm 21, so it took a good 10 years or so. But my husband definitely isn't a dweeb I dated when I was 14! I didn't meet him until I was an adult. So I guess what it boils down to is that your first instinct is usually the best one. If he doesn't set your heart a-flutter, then set him free as nicely as possible. And then apologize profusely, and give him some space. He'll probably be hurt for a while, but he'll come around when he realizes that you weren't trying to hurt him- you were just confused. BTW, if you are uncomfortable around him because he gives you a creepy feeling for some unexplainable reason, drop him like a bad habit ASAP! Just don't make him mad! Don't worry too much, ok? This kind of drama is a natural side effect of being a teenager. You'll find someone you REALLY like soon enough, but only if you are honest with yourself and your boyfriend. Hope this helps and let me know how it goes!!!
2006-11-14 16:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by danni_d21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're too young to be dating...you're practically children for crying out loud...
Plus, you're 13, you're a good 5 years away from being able to marry someone (I think even 18 is too young). Do you want to date guys for all this time? You'll be throwing away your childhood. You should be going out with your girl friends instead of worrying about some guy.
2006-11-14 15:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't want to hear this but 13 is too young to be dating. You don't understand who you are yet and now you want to devote energy trying to figure someone else out?... forgive me but I don't get it. The best advise I can give you is to stop altogether, focus on yourself and try again in three or four years.
2006-11-14 15:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by Al 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey th age never matters..k in some situations...im 14 too..!!! i'll try 2 help.
You must be deeply in love with him thats why your soo scared to make mistakes....dont worry..i think your in for a treat...of love...hahah you like that..well gal just chill..k and your not being shy!!!! i know you dont want to hurt him....and dont break up!!! take it from me...your in LOVE..its okay...to feel scared and whether you'll hurt him..thats normal...and dont give a **** about the age...kk
Just be your self....and dont break up!!!! pls..he sounds good....
Hope this helps....
Cheers for love!!!! dont be afraid..u sound like gal who''l do anything 4 love!!! the guy is lucky to have you by his side...
2006-11-14 15:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by Chrmd_luv 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hay 2 weeks is not long give it a little more time good luck to you
2006-11-14 15:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should explain your feelings to him and explain that you want to be just friends.
2006-11-14 15:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by cschultz66701 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋