School seem to think that by playing the situation down, it makes it more bearable for my son. Im at my wits end with them and desperate to help my little boy. What can i do to get them to listen? They wouldnt even suggest where i could get my son some extra emotional support. It seems to me like they're refusing to accept responsibility and that meens hes not getting the support he needs when hes in schools care. Im running out of ideas now, and any help or advice would be appreciated more than you could know.
2006-11-14 15:26:59 · 12 answers · asked by katie 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
This is terrible situation, but I know you already this. I feel really bad for you and your son because I do know what it feels like to be at your wits ends.
I suggest you continue to talk to the people at the school, but also send them letters identifying the problems along with the date and time of the incidents. This will create a paper trail. A paper trail will help you in two ways: documentation so that when you take this matter to the school board or higher no one can say I didn't know; and, in the unfortunate event that the bullying gets so severe that you must seek legal action.
Also, did you try contacting the parent of the other child involved.
I wish the best for you this is a really tough situation and it is hard to think when you and your son are being impacted so greatly.
Regards...
2006-11-15 00:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by j_jremy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was bullied at school when she was round 11 years old ... After a few phone calls to the school with no help, in fact the head was never available, I just turned up with my wife and demanded to see the head.
I reminded him that he was liable for the safety of my daughter and her well being .. he replied that he was not in class when the incidents happened .. But I reminded him that a staff member of his was or should have been, therefore he was as head he was and is responsible.
Some further issues surrounding his miss-management were mentioned and then I mentioned litigation (legal action) and calling the police. The litigation is bad because it would get in the papers and the police is bad because they would be at school every day whilst the bullying persisted .. all very bad publicity for the school.
Guess what the alleged bully was cautioned, her parents were asked to school and she was eventually expelled. However the trauma never left my daughter all the time she was at school until she left for college ..when she suddenly 'grew out of it'.
I feel very sorry for you but keep going and demand the school takes action. As for some additional suport for your boy .. why not the scouts, I know its a little 'naff' these days but its good team building and of course there is the option of him learning a marshall art .. not to hit back but to give him confidence .. Best of luck to you both but especially your child ..
2006-11-14 15:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please believe me when I say that you have my total sympathy but I have to ask are you sure that it is your son who needs the emotional support. I am not trying to make light of what is obviously a very trying time for you but sometimes children play on the parents anxiety because they realise that they become the centre of attention. I'm sure that this is not the case and your child is coming out of school covered in bruises also you must have good reason to suspect the school of colluding with bullies and if this is the case then like some of the others have said why are you not hammering on the door of the school board
2006-11-14 16:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your child is being physically bullied and the school will not act, call your local law enforcement. There are civil laws on the books that address this situation. Inform the school you will be doing so. Then call the administration of your local school district and speak to the superintendent, explain all that has happened, politely explain a lawsuit is in their future if they don't act immediately. This will get their attention...school boards HATE attention from the press.
2006-11-14 15:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by Rich B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My son is the very shy and quiet and bullies love to mess with that kind of kid. They see it as a weakness. At first, when my son was your boys age, he would just cry or ignore them. Now he is 9 and when they start to now he puts them in their place quickly. How did he go from being the bullied to being able to fend them off? I started putting him into group activities that he liked so that he'd be able to up his social experience. My heart goes out to you. I totally think it hurts the parent more than it hurts the child. Nobody likes anyone picking on their baby especially when you know you've got a great kid. Why don't you message me on yahoo messenger. debra_lee_m
2006-11-14 15:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that, I was bullied as a child also. It's very emotional, both for the parent and child. My best advice would be to toughen you're kid up, and not with guts and wits, but with knowledge. Get him emotionally prepared, and he'll stand right up for himself.
Contact your school counselor if you could, and get in touch with the teacher that is letting this problem go on! He doesn't deserve this and neither do you!
2006-11-14 15:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by Greg S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
BULLYING IS WRONG AND NO CHILD SHOULD HAVE TO 'PUT UP WITH IT'.
If your are very unhappy with the school's response to your child's problems do take it further. Write to the Chair of Governors expressing your concerns (dates and details of incidents would strengthen your case) Copy this letter sending a duplicate to your local education authority's Director of Children's Services.
Good luck.
2006-11-15 06:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Safety First 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, before you do this in your area make sure it can be done: in our area schools get a non bullying grant for the promotions of rallies to inform about bullying and to prevent it. see if your school gets one of these and tell the school if it doesn't stop, you will write your local representative and report the school and they will lose that grant. i, myself, if you are getting nowhere, would write the representative even if this matter is cleared up after you threaten to write so it helps you later and some other poor child later.
2006-11-14 23:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep going up. If the school won't help you, contact the school board. Take it all the way to the top. If it's as serious as you believe it is, chances are, it's not the first time the school has ignored this type of situation.
2006-11-14 15:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by reeba202 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was bullied, from kindergarden, all the way to 9th grad, I am now in the 11th.,., It kinda learned to live with it, until the 5th grade,., then my Parents took me to see a Psychiatrist, and he taught me some coping skills, I would get EXTREMELY violent when I was picked on, so that helped me, until I got to middle school.,. that's when I started becoming suicidal,.,., once I got to that stage, the school started taking it seriously.,., in my elementary years, they almost excused the bullying, as being childs play, and that I was taking it too seriously,., but yeah.,.,
I would suggest looking for another school,. one that enforces a Zero Tolerance for Bullying.,., and just keep reminding him, that you will be there for him!!
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-11-14 15:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Beccaface08 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋