How do I make my spouse feel better after losing his grandmother?

Question

And how do I make his mother feel better also?

Answer 1

Just be there for them. There's really nothing you can say or do. I lost the man I loved many years ago to suicide. So many people tried to say something to make me feel better. It gets awful after awhile.

The one who helped me the most was the one who had lost her husband, who said that whatever I felt was ok, and that she was there for me if and when I needed her.

Show them love, let them talk if they want to and don't push it if they don't. Just quietly be there for them, and let them grieve in their own way. The only thing that will help them to heal is time.

You're a good person for wanting to make them feel better. They're lucky to have you.

Answer 2

Just be there and be supportive. It takes up to and sometimes beyond a year to at least be able to accept the loss of a loved one and even then you will still strongly feel the pain and not understand why. So just be there and also understand that everyone deals with it differently and there is no set way to deal with it. Only time will make it bearable

Answer 3

Just be there for him..help him remember a special good time with Grandmother. Let him know that she's up in heaven watching over him and wouldn't want him to grieve too long... How fortunate he is to have had her in his life..there are others that barely or not at all get to know their grandparents..

Answer 4

i lost my grandmother who raised me about 6 years ago and it was one of the hardest things that i have ever been through. my husband was patient and most of all just there. i didn't need or want him to say much just be there when i needed him. he did little things like bringing me coffee in a special cup or just holding me while i cried and listened as i told story after story. just be there for him and love him and the same for your mother in law

Answer 5

Don't forget that was Grandma, A powerful name for many of us. Nothing you say right now will help, but remembering her and speaking of her is a good thing. Tell him that you know hes feeling sad and miserable, and if there is anything you can do for him, talk to him. Keep communications opened. I don't know if you have children, but if you do maybe he can tell them stories of his days with his Grandma.

Answer 6

i am so sorry that they have gone thru this loss.

i know a lady whos grandmother passed, and as a tradition(before her passing) that they got their picture taken every year and this year they put her favorite tea set in thepicture, to remind the family of her.

just sit and comfort them, cook some meals, clean up the house.

my uncle got killed in june, so i know how they are feeling. they just needyour hand and a hug to cry into!!

Answer 7

the best thing is just to be there for him everyone grieves in different ways and at different times just let him know you are there for him, you could help his mother the same way and also maybe helping her with errands that she won't want to do at the moment,like getting groceries for her etc.it also helps to bring laughter and joy like remembering the good times they shared and remember that the grandmother will always be with them in spirit and in their hearts forever

Answer 8

Grief and mourning are processes that everyone will eventually go through. Let them talk about their feelings and just be there to be helpful and supportful. Time will heal the wounds.

Answer 9

Give them time, this is a really traumatic time for them both. Just be there for them. You can make a collage for them both. Get pics of all of them and make a collage to hang up and that way they will have fond memories they can always look at and they will appreciate you for it also.

Answer 10

Well I lost my grandparents about three years ago and my wife was there with me. Just be there let him know that u will be here for him. Let him know she's in a better place and one day they will see each other one day.