Im Catholic. My fiance is Lutheran. Neither of us want to convert, yet we want blessings from both the Priest and Pastor.
Is it possible to get married in the Catholic Church, then get a blessing from the Pastor (lutheran) afterwards? and if so, what all goes into getting married in the catholic church? -- as far as classes, talking w/ priest etc...
2006-11-14 15:10:19 · 9 answers · asked by shaweet84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You and your fiance can be married in the Catholic Church.
Because the Church recognizes the tremendous challenge that the interfaith couple will face, you may have to get permission from the bishop.
You and your fiance will be required to take a class about the importance and significance of marriage.
I cannot speak for the Lutheran Church.
With love in Christ.
2006-11-14 16:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
If you want a Lutheran (or just about any other Protestant) wedding, performed by a Lutheran minister, then all you need to do is meet with the minister and do some pre-marriage counselling that basically gets you to talk about what you expect out of marriage and what marriage will really be like. His being Catholic won't matter a bit. I've never heard of receiving a Catholic blessing for a non-Catholic wedding. Here's what I do know, though. If you want a Catholic wedding, then the two of you will need to meet with the priest. You don't have to convert, but you do have to agree that your children will be raised Catholic. You will also need pre-marriage counselling (I don't know how to spell the term they actually use...precanna?), which is more detailed than what you would do for a Lutheran wedding. After doing all of this, the priest will make a final decision as to whether he approves of the marriage, and then he'll perform the ceremony. I assume that for a Catholic priest to bless the marriage, he has to approve of it. You might not have to do the precanna, but I'm pretty sure you would at least have to promise that your children will be raised Catholic. However, even without the Catholic blessing, you will still be recognized as being married.
2016-03-28 06:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amy L is wrong. If you want to be married in a Catholic Church you both have to go through Pre-Cana (6 hours) or Catholic Engaged Encounter training.
Engaged Encounter is a non-dem marriage prep weekend. It is run by the local diocese. In the Diocese of Trenton NJ we have EE, specific for Ecumenical (Catholic/ Non-Catholic, but Christian) Marriages.
You have to ask you priest if you can have a Lutheran Pastor give you a blessing during your ceremony. I don't know if that is possible.
If you get married in the Lutheran Church, you can receive the Sacrament of Marriage at a later time. Ask you priest about this, as this could be the way to go.
Another poster also mentioned that you must promise to raise you children Catholic if you want to get married as a Catholic. This is true. Neither of you will be required to convert though.
2006-11-15 02:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same scenario as my brother's. The Catholic Church is a lot more flexible now than they used to be. Talk with the priest. Odds are he's had many similar situations before. In my brother's case, they had a few meetings with the priest just to talk about marriage and so on. Not much different than I had in my Lutheran church. The only thing that I recall that was different was that I had to sign a document for my brother's fiancee's church that I knew my brother to be of good character and that he had not been previously married. He may have also promised to bring the children up Catholic, but I could be mistaken.
2006-11-14 15:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how things are done in your parish/diocese. You will need to talk with your priest, and his pastor. Where I live, you can have a ceremony in a Catholic church, with both the priest and pastor at the wedding. If you get married in the Catholic church, you will have to do extensive pre-marital counselling/classes - which are wonderful, because you learn a lot about each other. The person who is not Catholic must agree to raise the children Catholic.
2006-11-14 22:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married in the Catholic Church, and we did have to take classes. My husband was not Catholic, but did not convert either. But we did have to give our word that our children would be Baptized Catholic, and raised Catholic. The Priest gave us weekly classes. When my husband passed away, he was still young, the funeral was at a Catholic Church. The Priest was there and so was his Pastor.
2006-11-14 15:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by sue d 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most Catholic churches require that one or both of you be Catholic and have received the sacraments of Baptism, First Communion and Confirmation. You need to provide proof and church addresses.
Each parish is different but there are a series of marriage preparation classes you both must attend.
You can have a similar wedding at a Lutheran church, but only one wedding certificate.
2006-11-14 15:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am Lutheran (LCMS) and my fiance is Catholic. Usually, you will just have to meet with the priest a couple of times, since neither one of you wants to convert, you won't have to take classes.
2006-11-14 15:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Amy L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not an expert, but it is always recomended that you first go to your priest, both of you, he will know all the proper ways to go about things.
2006-11-14 15:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by lonerforever14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋