Don`t say you love me?

Question

What do you make of a woman who doesn`t want you to tell her you love her,because she knows you do and it makes her feel uneasy.She needs time to see for herself and feels the love word will influence her

Answer 1

she has been hurt before and is afraid you will hurt her again --- dont push it --- she knows how you feel and you know how she feels --- care for her love her and be there for her

Answer 2

Good question... I face this currently.. Lemme tell you the story and then it will be better for you to put it into prospective,
okay.. I was married and with the same person for over 20 yrs...I took beatings, he was a no good drunk, my kids hid his alcohol, he was never around for his boys or I, spent money on women for hotels etc..., I worked 2 jobs managed bills and took time to do activities with our boys (scouts, wrestling, open houses..etc...). I took all I could and things worsened...finally he walked out on the boys and myself. Anyways.. time passed I met a couple guys nothing serious, finally one evening at home I met the most wonderful man over the net. Time passed and we grew closer and closer. We moved in together. I was with him for pretty close to 3 yrs. He treated me so good, like I had never been treated before. He was a true man in every aspect. He even treated my boys as if they were his. He was killed Jan 30, 2005 by a jerk on a snowmobile. My life was turned upside down. I had the experience of the worse marriage and also had another experience of a best friend, lover, companion like no-one could ever imagine. He never told me he loved me till he knew. Whenever he said those three words I knew it was true and felt in more ways than one. I always returned with the same adding too. It was not til I was living with him did I realise that Love is just not a word to say...it is trust, that tingling feeling you get just looking at the significant other, companionship, goals set the same..everything is a package, you mesh like peanut butter and jelly on a sandwich. Now, I currently am in a relationship and very afraid to say the words even hear them. I think it is because I am afraid to be hurt again. Although my current companion has said the words but for me I just can not return them as often as I should. At times, I feel guilty..but, at times I am not. I do love him and would love to be married to him. I just am afraid.

So, to answer your question... I think I would have to say maybe she is afraid of being hurt. By saying those three words she probably feels that she is attached more than she is ready to be. I hope this makes some sense for you. Lots of luck. LL.

Answer 3

She probably doesn't want to hear it cause it makes her feel awkward as she doesnt' love you or feel the same way and by you saying i love you she feels she has to recipricate and say it back.

Is this a new relationship? if so give it some time better that she loves you for real and from the heart than jsut to appease you and say i love you back not meaning it.

Answer 4

she's a little dramatic and likes to over-analyze her romantic life. Maybe she has a little too much baggage...on the other hand, she was honest and straightfoward about what she wanted from you. In return, be honest with her and with yourself about what you want. Maybe her somewhat puzzling behavior is raising some red flags for you, and you would be better off moving on. Or maybe it intrigues you and you would like to stick around for more...your option.

Answer 5

I think she has every right to feel uncomfortable, but if your relationship never goes anywhere because of it, I think that YOU have every right to just leave.