Well I was driving by my girlfriends work to surprise her. As I was driving up to the parking lot I saw somebody that looked like her getting a piggyback ride from a co-worker. At first I thought nothing of it and said to myself, “That couldn’t be her. She would never do that to me. She always asks me why I don’t trust her. So that is not her.” As I drove up and got closer it was her she was laughing and smiling…until she saw me. Her mouth was wide open and was shocked to see me. It was her. I felt so stupid and it was really hurt. After work she got home and texted me right away. And said that she was sorry and that she would explain everything to me. I was so hurt by it. I know if I did that she would be the same way. And I don’t know why she did it. Do you think it is fair for me to be jealous? Also would it be fair for me to break up with her? Additionally, we have been going out for almost 2 years.
2006-11-14 15:01:32 · 11 answers · asked by birdistheword 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no I would not worry about it at all...unless you have reasons to not trust your gf. However if you don't trust your gf then thats a whole other issue..you should not be with someone you do not trust..what is the point of that? I think she reacted that way because she knows you can get jealous, it was probably just a harmless friend thing..and its obvious that she cares about you so don't sweat it..show her that you are confident in yourself and your realtionship with her, don't be the crazy jealous boyfriend its not attractive. Plus you will find if you respond in a clam way and see what the situation is, she is more likely you tell you things in the future..whereas now she might be leaving harmless things out in fear that you will freak out and become jealous.
2006-11-14 15:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by thereis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
giving a piggy back ride? I would have dumped her on the spot. The only person giving piggy back rides are either you or just damn YOU. co- worker giving piggy back ride is not cool. Seriously, when I put myself in your shoes, the relationship is getting sour. It is turning like a old tree. It is not holding itself up anymore. She have lost her commitment of a serious relationship. She is taking advantage of it, like careless about it, like I know he trust me and he knows I trust him that sort of thing. This situation is unacceptable. If these people I know really well and they are close I am okay with it. But if not I am pissed off. Let her explain, just don't show her too much trust anymore or give her too much trust anymore, just keep an eye out for yourself. Now it is time to look at yourself.
2006-11-14 15:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darn dude its just a piggy back ride its not like there were making out in the parking lot, theres no reason to be jealous . I think its kinda funny i mess around my co-workers infront my girl and she laughs and giggles, if i were u i would just laugh about the whole situation, and u guys have been togethor for 2 YEARS lol are u going to let a piggy back ride ruin it for u . I mean come on that sounds like rubbish. well gtg srry for the tough love mate hope taht help bye
2006-11-14 15:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by Leo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to be upset because you don't know the details. Wait a while and find out what really went down and then you deceide if it's worth breaking up or not. Other than that your reaction is very acceptable.
2006-11-14 15:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mimy ImFurst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her then you shouldnt break up with her over that, yes its hurtful but tell her that, try making things work out ... 2 years is alot to just throw away just like that without even tryign to work it out. And i think you have the right to me a little jealous .. dont go crazy man on her .. but you know what i mean.
hope things work out for you and i hope my advice helped you out a little :)
2006-11-14 15:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Horseplay like that with a co-worker?
First of all, yes, you should be jealous.
Second of all, yes, you should break up with her.
She may or may not have been fooling around with him, but seriously.. that sort of behaviour is an open-door to infidelity.
Trust me on this one... leave her now, before she tears your heart in two. Because if you stay, and her horseplay gets outta hand, it's going to completely destroy you.... like it did to me when it happend to me.
2006-11-14 15:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by JediKnight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, if you've been together for 2 years, I think that you two will work things out....I mean the relationship survived for the past 2 years because of something right? ^-^
2006-11-14 15:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by .Cami.B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way...if she thought nothing of the piggy back ride...then she wouldnt really feel the need to apologize and feel sorry...but she is...so perhaps u should be jealous
2006-11-14 15:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anita L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have some concern. Ask her flat out what the relationship is between her and the coworker.....then tell her that kind of behavior is not respectful in from someone in a relationship. Stand your ground and tell her to keep her feet on it!
2006-11-14 15:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude that novel you've written is great, it has suspense, conflict, and a great twist; when it really was your girl. Is there going to be a sequel?
2006-11-14 15:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by kelleywheel7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋