ok...so my boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months. We just made out for the first time last night. We made out like 4 sepersate times, each lasting well over a minute. I didnt mind them, but i didnt really feel anything. I really like my boyfriend, should i have felt something? Or were we just not doing it right? please help me.
2006-11-14 14:49:50 · 14 answers · asked by balletperson91 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not abnormal. A woman can really like many men, and not feel lust for them. This is not only normal, it is common, and a very good thing.
If you had lust for every man that you liked, then you would be pregnant all the time, and perhaps have venerial diseases as well.
It does go without saying that you should not make out with him. He thinks you like it, and you are allowing him to think that. That is deception.
And if you don't have sexual feelings for him, than it is inappropriate that you have a romantic relationship.
That having been said, I think alot of women feel like they must absolutely be involved with someone, even if they have no feelings for them. There is nothing wrong with being alone.
2006-11-14 14:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You're very inexperienced so it'll come to you with practice with the guy or guys you care about. What didn't you feel? if it's sexual attraction to your partner then that may be signs that in the future there will be issues with your sexual expression with one another. If on the other hand you are in love and you find him attractive then you may just not have been in the mood. Guys need to learn more about foreplay and how to seduce the women they love and not just "make out". 5 months isn't very long so go at your own pace. Try not to dwell on it and have fun.
2006-11-14 22:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not abnormal it could have been for many reasons..just give it a shot a few more times and feel it out. If you continue to feel nothing it could be that you may not have romantic feelings for your bf, meaning the like you feel is just friendly and lacking that spark. Or it could just be that your not comfortable yet, maybe your worried about doing something wrong or what he is thinking just relax and dont worry trust me im sure hes not complaining.
2006-11-14 22:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by thereis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. My first time I didn't feel anything. I didn't have an orgasm for a long time. Guys seem to wanna take care of themselves sometimes and it will take you awhile to know what is right for you. Some say it's good to play with yourself to know your body more. Girls and guys like different ways to pleasure each other. All girls/guys are not the same.
2006-11-14 22:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by J~Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did what you felt like you were supposed to do and it didnt move you because it wasnt supposed too.i think you are just getting to the point of your relationship were you are getting to know each other and trying new things. magic is just that magic its just tricks.take your time if you really like they guy and things will fall into place all by themselves.and if it doesnt work out, you will be okay, because we all want to beleive in magic
2006-11-14 23:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by bill n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that reminds me of one of my best friends. the first few times she made out, it didn't do anything for her. one of the problems was that she had her eyes open lol. eventually she got the hang of it. making out is not like a first kiss. a lot of girls i talk to say the first time they made out was weird but then it got more fun as time went on.
2006-11-14 22:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Sami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you didnt feel anything because you having fun enjoying it. And its only your first time maybe you'll get that feeling when you have that feeling of a guy.
2006-11-14 22:52:18 · answer #7 · answered by Thrills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may just be under too much pressure.
Pressure to make out,pressure to feel something.
Relax and go easy on yourself.
2006-11-14 22:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the first time..
2006-11-14 22:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by yu g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw
itll get better!
i promise
well u guys know how to kiss right?
[not being mean jsut i dont know how old u are]
2006-11-14 22:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by surfwavesx3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋