in your experience can a man handle being told by the woman - "just a little bit to the left, ya right there" ....AND do you even tell us????
2006-11-14 14:44:37 · 16 answers · asked by zigzagidiot 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my own experience, men appreciate it when you let them know how to please you. After all, wouldn't it be even worse if the woman had to "fake" her pleasure? I think men LOVE knowing they are able to give their woman satisfaction, no matter what!!
:-)
2006-11-14 15:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by yumyum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something that I've never understood about men, and to a somewhat lesser degree women. I have been happily married now for quite a while, and now as then - I was very active sexually, sex was and remains casual and fun!
Sex is also the most intimate and sharing experience I can think of between a man and a woman, and I truely do want to please my partner as much as I can, - because it make's my own experience just that much more pleasurable, (Ya get what you put into it - pardon the pun).
Look, I wasn't great sexually just because I had a great hard-body and a big organ. I was a good sex partner because I was in tune with my partners, because I communicated with my partners - some times you can talk with your partner - some women are very open & uninhibited, and if you ask they will tell you exactly what they need / what it is they want, and visa-versa. Other times you have to communicate by touch, and by sounds - by moans, and gasps, and other sounds of pleasure - and signals that are there - you just have to be attentive to pick up on them - and sometimes if you are not sure you have to just quietlly ask.
Speed, rythum, pace, and knowing when to freeze and stay perfectly still are also important, as is touch, pressure, position, when to kiss, when to just hold and cuddle, when to carress, when to use fingers, lips, tongue - etc.
Some partners want to experiment but don't know exactly how to do what it is they think they want to try, and need to go slow and need help and trust, other times the first time is all flying clothing, groping, and lust, The first raw encounters are powerful and hugely erotic, but no less so is a carefully controlled evening of foreplay, rushing in and pulling back like the tide, going a ittle further each time, until the neither can hold back the surf any longer and you are lost together in the breakers. Sex is natural, wholesome, and the better you can know how your partner is satisfied, the sooner you can find new ways to enhance that pleasure for her / him, and even move on to new things together, you can grow your relationship, and always leave something for the last time, to try the next time, anticipation is a stong force and a keen love potion. Sexual Highs are very delicate - and fleeting - so it's critical to be able to communicate qucikly to keep the high balanced on the razors edge. Good luck - and talk to him!
2006-11-14 15:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by jtrall25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate when a women tells me what she wants or says can you do this. I think in general men have a hard time with criticism and especially about sex. Sex is a touchy subject as we are all at least a little worried about our performance. Are we good enough, big enough, and last long enough. Then when somebody corrects something it brings those fears out even more. I am just saying in general I think men have a difficult time when a woman corrects them especially when it comes to sex.
2006-11-14 14:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by Michael M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only women would have the strength to actually give their men direction they would be a lot more satisfied and the man would feel a lot better about himself but women can not give the direction they need to achieve a total selfish pleasure which the man would love to give them... A catch 22
2006-11-14 14:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by ray b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People that want a better sex life do. That's the art of making love. No two people are the same - and sharing and exploring in sexual intimacy is not only mutually satisfying but a great turn on. He has aspects of himself he shuld also be sharing with.you. Good Luck
2006-11-14 14:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by Scott L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as a rule no but they should be mature enough to do so just be careful what and how you say it no man wants to be told that he sucks at sex. Now what you wrote is not correction just a suggestion and I don't think a man would mind that after all most aim to please and my husbands greatest satisfaction comes from knowing I got mine. If a man doesn't like what you wrote he may just be selfish as some are and just want to get his and be done if that's the case I'd get a new partner
2006-11-14 14:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by katlady927 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's all in the way you tell them. If it's done sensitively and they are praised when they get it right, I think they love it. Funny how much men are like puppies.. you can't tell them off because they cowar but if you praise them when they do good and give them a treat for it, they are pretty loyal and very eager to please.
2006-11-14 17:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it's not the entire session AND you do it in a positive way and not a b*tchy way, men LOVE it.
We love to see & hear the woman being pleased.
Its all in the delivery. ;)
2006-11-14 14:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by kiltboi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you say "Just a little to the left" with a smile, they're usually good. If you say "Just a little to the left, you idiot!" they'd probably have a problem with it. lol.
2006-11-14 14:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can only say for myself, i don't mind being told because if u can keep ur girl satisfied hey no reason why she can't tell u where to put it to feel good
2006-11-14 14:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by montana_sun_rise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋