My mom is very against me dating a guy that has a child. She would FLIP OUT if I told her. So since I am not planning on marrying him, just having fun with him, I havn't told her.
I am 21 by the way.
Just wanted to know if a mothers advise is always correct. He is the responsible parent, he has full custody of his daughter.
What should I do?
2006-11-14 14:43:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
99.9% of the time she is right. She has experienced just about everything that you are going through now and maybe even more. Your mom is trying to protect you, she doesn't want to see you get hurt.Don't forget that she was once a teenager herself, she doesn't want you to go through the same things she went through when she was your age. And since their is a child involved, that doesn't make it any better. If you continue to see this man you will always have some kind of drama in your life.
Listen to your mother. She knows best.
2006-11-14 14:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by she devil 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Based on the information you have given us in the question, I would say that she might be a little prejududice against the guy because he has a kid from a previous relationship. You must learn that all mothers are going to be weary and concerned about who you are dating. After all, you are their little girl. They have your best interest at heart. If that is all that is wrong with the guy, he sounds OK. If he is a player or a abuses drugs and alcohol then mom would be right.
If all you want the guy around is to have fun after work or school, then mom doesn't need to know what's up. Besides, you are an adult now. Legally she has no say in who you are dating. On the other hand, you need to be respectful of her feelings too. After all, the guy may not stick around, but mom will always be mom.
2006-11-14 14:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes 99% of mothers are right. I am a mother of two. The oldest is 17 and married and expecting in April. She is now telling me that I was right. So yea they are pretty good at this stuff. Stop and think that she has been around longer and she may not havea fit. Just be careful. Good luck. It does take a good man to have custody of his child. So mom might see that he is for real and not a joke.
2006-11-14 15:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ready G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moms are sometimes very square. often cuz they made the same dumb mistakes their kids are planning on making and want to keep them from the pain. mom's are not God. God is God.
some one told me, every date is a possible mate.
maybe consider finding a fun someone who you'd actually consider marrying someday. if your affections grow for some guy you'd never think about marrying, then against your better judgement you might do it, and have lots of regrets later.
if your mom is against the guy, prob. momma's right.
you're gonna do what you want but if you'd like to avoid heartaches and pain, you'd do well to listen to her instead of just going for the fun, without thinking long term about the consequences.
peace out questioning dudette
2006-11-14 14:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of your mom's worry is right. I used to be in kinda situation. I was a widower and loved a virgin. Her mother was against to our relationship. But I could assure her that I was serious. She is my wife now and we have a child of 7 years of age.
2006-11-14 14:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by polie_tikus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno about that, but I'm sure they have good intentions.
2006-11-14 14:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by Rollercoaster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋