Suicide...?

Question

Alright, so, heres the deal. My friend has started to cut himself again, and now he is no where to be found, and his cellphone is off... This has caused me to start cutting again... What should I do?

Alright, enough with the abusive, "you are retarded" comments. Im starting to get sick and tired of them. I want real advice, not this abusive bulls**t.

Alright, so he has been found... thanks for all the non-abusive help guys.

And sorry... I cant really pick a best answer. You guys (all who were tolerant and non-abusive) all played a part in this. Thank you all so much!

Answer 1

You should not start cutting yourself again. So stop. There are people around who love and care about you. You not only hurt yourself when you cut but you also hurt them.
Suicide is not an option. Think about all the fun times you would miss out on.
IF I had done it when I thought about it then not only would I have killed myself but I would have unknowingly killed my unborn child as well. Thank God I changed my mind that day. I found out the next day I was pregnant. I would have missed out on something special if I had done it. Yes there have been bad days all the way around BUT the good days greatly out weigh the bad ones. My daughter is now 21 years old and one of the greatest joys in my life. See what I would have missed out on if I had decided that day to carry out my plan.
You may not see it right this moment but things do and will get better.
Keep trying to get a hold of your friend. Hopefully he is fine. IF he has committed suicide then it is not your fault. He made his choices.
You just need to remember people care about you and tomorrow is always another day. Some thing good can be right around the corner so to speak.
Peace.

I am so sorry you are getting negative comments. I hope you don't take mine that way. My comments are not indented to be that way. I just want you to see there are reasons to not hurt yourself any way shape or form. Again Peace

Answer 2

I'm sorry for all of the ignorant, arrogant answers that some people gave you. As far as finding your friend, talking to his friends/family and if they don't know where he is, calling the police all sound like good suggestions.

Because you say that you have started to cut yourself "again", I assume that you have learned that cutting yourself is a way to try to deal with painful emotions. I hope that the reason you have been successful for a time, means that you have learned and practiced some better ways to deal with those kinds of feelings.

I suspect that your friend starting to cut himself again and now being missing has caused so much anxiety that you feel overwhelmed. Please remember that what you fear "may" have happened may not have happened at all.

Just because we have fears come into our minds doesn't mean that those fears are going to come true. Try to use the energy that comes from anxiety (the fight or flight response) to do something to realistically find your friend.

Also, talking to trusted family and or friends and telling them what you are feeling is a way to reduce the pain of the emotions that you are feeling.

In addition, if you believe in God ( and even if you don't- because it's impossible to be sure that there is no God), praying to God can help a lot. It not only gives you a sense of doing something when what you can do is limited, but God has helped me so many times when I have asked Him for things.

God bless you and your friend.

Answer 3

First off I want to say sorry for some of the rude and hurtful comments you have gotten. People don't get that cutting isn't a funny matter and neither is suicide. Try to forget about that arrogance.!. I know you're not going to want to tell anyone and be afraid to disappoint people which might make u want to cut even more but you do need to talk to some one whether it be a parent, teacher, or school councilor. It's fine to fell sad and be depressed but it's not okay to cut. I know it helps take away the pain but we all know it doesn't last. Your better than that!!!! You've all ready done a big step which is reaching out by this question you just have to take another big step and go through with some of these answers.!. I really hope things work out. if you want to talk my e-mail is

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Answer 4

wut ever u do, dont cut. u cant help ur freind if ur dead. if he has been gone 4 more than 2 days, then call his work place and ask about him, if he has a job. if not i would ask da police to keep an eye out for him and if he has been gone for 4 days den u need 2 inform da police dat he's missing and they need to not just keep an eye out 4 him but search 4 him. im sure he will turn up sumwhere!

Answer 5

Practical advice:

Squeeze ice cubes in you hands until the urge to cut goes away.

Unfortunately at this point, your friend is beyond your control. Until he shows up, the best thing you can do is to pray for him. I hope everything works out ok for you....

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Come on, get a grip. You see what's happening to him. What is this? A cut yourself and I'll cut myself club? Get help for him, try to find him do something constructive and not negative. Find him. That would be the right thing to do not the same thing he has done. So, if he's gone and killed himself are you doing the same thing? Where is the brain that God gave to you? Please find it and put it back in your head and use it for positive, not hurtful negative things. I pray your friend is fine and that you see him soon. Prayers for you too that you become a person that does good and not hurtful things to anyone, including yourself.

Answer 8

cutting dosen't help anything. one of my close friend use to comit suicides (she never really succeded), and all i could do was read her poems and wish that she won't die today.
anyway, you could go look for him, or pray --somehow-- that hes ok... just don't cut yourself... i don't really have a good reason not to, but don't do it. and if that dosen't help, think about all the other people in this world whos deing, but wants to live, live your life for them, thats the least you could do...

Answer 9

OKay STOP I had a friend that did that and let's just say we're not friends anymore so don't do something pointless because you could lose veeryone you have including your family!!!!!!! So don't waist your life doing that because it leads to much more serious things!! You will think since you didn't die from that you won't die from the next step up and that's DEFINETELY not necessarilly true!! SO stoop because that could be the end!!!

Answer 10

Do you love your self ? If you are a mess you will not be able to help you friend. if you are cutting your self how will you be able to help him? if you are a mess you will not be able to give your friend the support that he needs. i think you should/have called the police and or contacted his family. to make sure he is okay.