boys and ear piercing?

Question

why do people make a huge deal when a toddler/younger boy gets their ears pierced? it isnt like its a tattoo...it isnt permanent. im just wondering what some people's take is on getting them done. My bf aka my son's father wants to get our son's ears pierced and im not for nor against it, im just unsure if its a good idea at this time, yet i know if i dont like it i can always take them out. any ideas/advice?
*P.S. if you have a smartazz comment or rude remark, you will be reported....be mature people*

Answer 1

In this day of drugs, peadophilia, abductions etc, it amazes me that this is still such a big deal.

It's free choice. Personal expression. If the child is old enough to express his/her individuality and it is their decision, what is the big deal for crying out loud?

As for infections, my mum tried that old worn out reason on me to not get mine done at 5, but i had no such problems, and neither did my son when he got his done at 8.

When he comes home wanting tattoos and money for drugs, and getting into truoble with the cops, well then i'll have something to worry about. But self expression?

Does that help you at all?

Cheers.

Answer 2

This is a personal decision that is up to the parents. I don't feel it is anyone's place to tell another parent what to do with their own children. Having said that, I wouldn't do it if it were my child (I'm expecting my third). I've had multiple piercings and tattoos. I had over 17 piercings at one time. I'm no stranger to body art. BUT I just think it is a bad move to do something like that to a child who has no say. I've heard three different babies getting their ears pierced and it was terrible. They're laying there all quiet and content and then suddenly they are screaming. It hurts and they don't understand it. Also, with a toddler or a young child you have an increase in chace of infection. Most infection occurs from constantly touching the piercing. How many kids are going to NOT fiddle with their piercing from time to time? I'm betting they'll do it a lot. I really think this is something that should wait until a child is old enough to say, "Hey, that is cool. I want one." Then they understand the pain and they also understand the need for aftercare and good hygiene.

But if you and your son's father are both in agreement and YOU see nothing wrong with it, then you're right, if you don't like it or if your son is uncomfortable then you can simply remove it. It certainly isn't the same ordeal as a tattoo.

Answer 3

Piercing whether it be for girls or boys should be a personal decision and a young boy doesn't know what's best for him. Depending on the piercing it could have dramatic effects after the piercing, ie. infection, peer taunting or teasing, if the child were to get into a physical altercation the piercing could get ripped out or pulled out causing again infection and scarring both physical and emotional, not to mention it hurts like hell too (I know from experience). U and his father r the adults here more u than the boys father who thinks it's cute or right on to have a piercing I don't mean to suade u one way or the other but as for me I'd wait until my son asks me if it's ok to get a piercing and then it's time to decide. So I'd hold off not definitely postpone it put just wait for ur son to decide not his father or u now.

Answer 4

Here is something to think about, and this goes for both boys and girls.
The decision to make a cosmetic alteration of a child's body, no matter how small, is not the parent's. It should be left until the child is old enough to make his/her own mature and well thought out decision (like maybe 9 or 10, at least, 12 is better). This applies to both boys and girls and only to minimal things such as ear peircing (not tattoos etc, which should only be done on those over 18).
Do I have a problem with parents who get their infant/toddler daughter's ears peirced? You bet I do, because it was not the little girl's decision. It was her parents. Your child is not your personal doll to dress up and any cosmetic alterations belong to him/her.
I do not have a problem with a decision to let an 11 or 12 year old boy having his ear peirced.

Answer 5

I agree with you somewhat, but personally I am not really for boys getting their ears pierced. I mean if they want to they should be able too, but as a guy myself, thats not the thing for me.

Answer 6

First of all, if someone has a "smartass comment, or rude comment" they can say whatever it is they want to, and no amout of reporting is going to ruin them. So YOU be mature and don't threaten people.

Second, this ear peircing should be the childs choice. Not yours, not the fathers. you should sit down, and tell your son what happens when he gets his ear peirced. Tell him that he is going to have to take care of it. Also tell him that people might make fun of him for having it. Don't force your child into it, because if you or the father does, people will look down on you. But, if you assist your child in making a choice that he is happy with, then anyone who does look down on you, you can brush them to the side and tell them to bug off..

Answer 7

Tbh, i actually like boys that have their ears pierced, and it wouldnt hassle me if that they had the two or only one! only they might desire to be stable finding to drag it off in my view :)

Answer 8

OK, If your BF wants to get your sons ear pierced then u should let him. If you dont feel so strongly where u wont allow it, then just dont start a fight and let it happen

Answer 9

all i can think of is the infections that might happen, or when he is playing and gets it ripped or pulled out. Is that a risk your willing to take? I might suggest waiting till he is older.

Answer 10

i happen to agree with you, it is not permanent.
My sister had both her son and her daughters ears done at age two. I see nothing wrong with it.