What can you tell me about mormon people, to be honest I dont know very much but i do know that mormon people usually marry fellow mormons. Is it possible for mormon people to marry someone not mormon?? If not what kind of sacrifices are non mormon people expected to make, i ve head things like giving up caffine and alcohol are normal along with donating a large amount of your salary to the mormon church.....how much of this is true???
2006-11-14 14:38:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
1. Give up coffee
2. Give up tea
3. Give up alcohol
4. Pay 10% tithing before deductions are taken
5. Go to church twice on Sundays
6. No church on Christmas unless it's on a Sunday
7. Live every day with the pressure to convert to Mormonism!!!
8. Females have to obay their husbands
9. They believe in poligamy after death (in heaven)
10. The Mormon (LDS) spouse is constantly being urged to get the none LDS spouse into THE CHURCH.
11. Pressure is on to raise the children in THE CHURCH
etc. etc. etc. !
2006-11-14 14:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by HSB 3 · 1⤊ 15⤋
Yes, it is possible for a non-mormon to marry a mormon, just for this life though, not for eternity. You must be worthy members to be sealed for time and all eternity, not just married for "time" - "til death do you part"...
I think it would be hard IF the person who was a member was always trying to get their spouse to convert and they didn't want to. Temple marriage and eternal familiy is what the church is all about so it is very important and if you don't have that, well, it would be hard to make the marriage work if you both didn't have the same goals. Not that there are people who do make it work because I am sure there are.
Also, the non-member would not have to live by those "rules" (no alcohol or coffee) if they didn't want to, the member would though to remain in good standing. Also, the big lump of money you are talking about is called tithing, it is a commandment, and is not really a big chunk - only 10% and honestly if you pay it first, then all your bills, you never even miss it! 10% is not that much when the Lord is letting you keep the other 90%. Plus, you are obeying the Lord so you are blessed...
any more questions- i would be happy to answer!
2006-11-15 05:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Very little of what you have mentioned is true. Mormons marry non-Mormons all the time. There are no expectations made of non-members, other than to love their spouse and try to live a good life. As for the word of wisdom and tithing that you mentioned, that is generally for members only, although others may freely keep the word of wisdom all they want. As for in marriage, I would think paying tithing (10% of your increase - not big chunks of income) and what a family will eat and drink would be something the couple would discuss prior to marriage. If the person who is a member chooses to pay tithing with their income, and the non-member is against it, then that's something the couple would need to discuss. The church would incourage the payment of tithing and for the couple to communicate with each other, but that's about as far as the church would go.
2006-11-15 08:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by Tonya in TX - Duck 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Mormons can marry non-m Mormons, but it isn't advised because then they can't go thru the temple. And Mormons only are allowed ONE WIFE or ONE HUSBAND.
Mormons pay a tithing that is 10% of their earnings. In the BIBLE it talks about tithings
Numbers 18:26, Luke 18:12
We are to live by the Word of Wisdom which says no coffee(caffiene), no strong drink,and no tobacco.
2006-11-14 14:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by nevada nomad 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I'm Mormon and I married a non Mormon. In fact the Bishop of my church married us in the church. My husband is not expected to change anything at all about himself. He smokes, drinks Mountain Dew, doesn't even believe in God. Yes, Mormons would like you to marry within the religion so you can be sealed in a Mormon Temple (married for eternity), but the Mormons I know didn't look down on me for my choice.
2006-11-14 14:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by swtgrl4321 2 · 11⤊ 0⤋
Well, your question has already been answered, but I have to comment... HSB, what do you mean, go to church twice on Sunday? I have been a "Mormon" all my life and, except for special occasions like when I have a choir practice, I only go to church once on Sunday. Also, regarding "females have to obey their husbands," that's not true. Both husband and wife should respect each other and work together. While the husband is technically the head of the household, any important decisions should be made together.
2006-11-14 15:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by Cherry 2 · 10⤊ 0⤋
Mormons often marry non-Mormons, but only in a civil ceremony--not in one of the temples.
Years ago, while I was inactive, I happened to have married a Methodist who stands firm against my faith. Yet she supports my callings and respects my unique beliefs. It is never easy for a family having two different religions in the home because of differing doctrine and objectives.
While your question appears sincere, your knowledge of Mormons as depicted in your narrative is distorted. But I can understand why. I would never force my wife to give up her coffee and iced tea unless she chooses to join my church. Then she would understand the importance of following what we call the Word of Wisdom.
In this commandment of God, we avoid tobacco, alcohol, coffee, and tea in all its forms. There is more that we follow, but suffice to say, it is to our better health and blessings from God to follow such laws.
By the way, we only tithe ten percent of our gross earnings--it is not a large amount as many might think.
2006-11-14 14:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by Guitarpicker 7 · 11⤊ 0⤋
I'm Mormon and my wife is agnostic. I don't expect my wife to believe or follow any of the things I believe in because they are not her beliefs, and I respect all peoples beliefs. I attend church every Sunday and my wife does her own thing. When we have Mexican food my wife has a Tecate and lime, and I have water, or whatever. It isn't that big of a deal as long each person respects the other and allows them to be who they are and believe as they do. Of course, it isn't always easy, but when you find someone you can't live without, it's worth it.
2006-11-15 09:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by straightup 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I have a friend who is Catholic and she is married to a practicing mormon (there is a difference). Talk about complicated...
2006-11-14 14:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bronx B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, i am a mormon, but it is frowned upon, because then you can't be sealed with sacred ordinances in the temple. we believed if you are sealed you are with your partner forever, not just till death do we part. it is eternal. that is why it is frowned upon.
2006-11-17 01:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by got118115147 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My Sis in law did that. they didn't go to temple in Utah, but she has adapted to their belief of her own choice. tho She does sneak in Cafffine and wine every now and then. bb Sdw
2006-11-14 14:44:09 · answer #11 · answered by Gladfly & Sdw 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋