My mom has passed away and my dad takes care of my brother. I have tried often to get plans set up on what will happen to my brother when my dad passes. He says "it is taken care of" when I know it is not. My dad is very selfish and is not taking care of this situation and I cannot make him do it. I am worried. I will not be able to take care of my brother for the rest of my life. He has SSI benefits but not enough to live on. He has cerebral palsy and is not retarded, just a little slow. He is too bright to live in a group home and has said, "he would rather die than live in a place like that." Are there any alternatives?
2006-11-14 14:36:47 · 3 answers · asked by cammie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Their are more alternatives for a disabled person than living in a group home. Their are supported apartments (with or with out a roommate), their are aid services that can come into a person's home, their are independent apartments that cater to the physically disabled. Their are so many options!! Have you ever been in a group home though? I have worked in several over the years. Some are down right scary, some, I was ready to move in to. They are not ALL bad,but you do have to research. Have your brother keep his options open, their are a lot of bright people that live in group homes. A low IQ is not a requirement for group home living. Call your local chapter of the Cerebral Palsy association as someone already suggested. Call your state developmental disabilities office and ask them for resources or support groups. Support groups are a great place to start because you can talk to people that have been in your family's situation, and you can learn from other people's success stories and mistakes.
Good for you to be thinking about his now. It is better to have these things addressed before you are in crisis mode.
Good Luck!!
2006-11-15 13:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Josie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak with someone in social services and find out what alternatives there are for your brother. There are some programs that are apartment like and offer a certain amount of independant living. I can understand your concerns and they certainly make a lot of sense. This safety net should have been in place for your brother since it was realized that he had special needs. If you have siblings maybe you can meet and discuss what options are availabe to you and maybe one of you would allow him to live with you.
2006-11-14 23:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you contact the Cerebral palsy org.and let them know your concern, I'm sure someone could help you with this. and at least you have some idea of where to start.
2006-11-14 23:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by lennie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋