I have a in-law that gets mad @ me everytime something doesnt go her way! I have tendency to try to keep peace so I apologize even when I haven't done anything! Well this is getting REALLY old! Do you think I should just keep apologizing even when I am not in the wrong to keep the peace, or should I just let her stay mad! I believe I just have to make it right on my side, and If she doesn't except it the fault is left on her. Am I right? What do I do????
2006-11-14 14:34:41 · 12 answers · asked by panda 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'VE BEEN THERE AND DONE LIKE YOU AND THEN FINALLY GOT MAD AT MYSELF FOR GIVING INTO HER ALL OF THE TIME. I FINALLY JUST TRIED NOT SAYING ANYTHING AND QUIT SAYING THAT I WAS SORRY. I KNEW BY THEN THAT THIS PERSON HAD A PROBLEM I WASN'T GOING TO BE ABLE TO FIX. SHE MADE PROBLEMS FOR ALL OF THE FAMILY. SO IT WASN'T JUST ME. HER MIND FINALLY WENT. SO SAD.
2006-11-14 14:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are all at fault for our own actions as adults. Your mother-in-law is an adult isn't she? Then stop taking faults that is not due to you. Believe me you are going to have enough of that on your own without excepting someone else's. I mean you have tried the suck up thing and it's got you NOWHERE. Therefore you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. Well, why Don't you? Seems to me you have nothing else to lose but your mind. You gave up your pride a long time ago. If you don't stand for anything else in your life stand up for what's right. You know you are right stop sucking up to an ungrateful, spoiled, selfish, arrogant in-law. If you don't stand now you'll keep falling for everything. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!
2006-11-14 23:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have in-laws just like yours. What it comes down is control. Stop apologizing and stand your ground. Let be mad she will get over it. In a relationship there has to be give and take. Not take, take. Is this person willing to compromise at all? If she makes the choice to be mad at you because you did give into her then it is her problem not yours.
2006-11-14 22:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by stocksrcoolin2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would simply say something to the effect, of...Im sorry your upset but I did what I felt was right. We can agree to disagree.
Maybe that will make her realize shes being a biotch!
2006-11-14 22:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by s w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have to be sorry for nothing. stick up for yourself.
don't let anybody ever **** on you.
if you take their crap, that will be all the more they will try and antagonize you ever more. just go off on the witch one good time. I stand behind you all the way. just don't put up with this you don't have to
2006-11-14 22:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by tabatha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you have to get your husband to get off his duff and tell his Mom that he will not longer tolerate her behavior towards you and that if she does he will not be back. Then if she acts up he needs to get his and your coats and leave. She will get the message one way or another. Your only other recourse is to tell him that you will not go over to his Mom's house or have her in yours, that he must go alone. good luck
2006-11-14 22:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds to me like youre the one thats easy to pass the blame onto! i was in the same boat, now they want me as the good influence, go figure! dont worry its only because youre the "outsider" take it not to the heart but from where its coming from. good luck.
2006-11-14 22:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by Meeowf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop apologizing!! just say"**** happens" and let her deal with it on her own. i got one just like that. recently she told me (while she was drunk) that she really hated me. i realized then that it didn't bother me at all! you guys don't have to love each other, just get along long enough for your family outings.
2006-11-14 22:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by gabriela 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her be pissed. Stand your ground, and hopefully hubby will side with you. I know that's a tough position for him, but maybe he'll see that you aren't doing anything and will stand up for you.
2006-11-14 22:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by Kallie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't make apologies, let that person be mad...
2006-11-14 22:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋