My 8 year old daughter, and my 3 year old daughter share a room. That part I dont mind. My 8 year old is like a little mommy to the 3 year old ever since shes been born. My problem that Im having is that my 8 year old wants the 3 year old to sleep in her bed with her every night. Is this wrong to let her do this or not to let her do this? I let her read a story to her and tuck her into bed to make her feel helpful(Im there, but not there, Im in my room listening). I need opions and help here.
2006-11-14 14:14:10 · 18 answers · asked by citygirl22_1 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
As long as the girls can sleep independantly if need be, I don't see anything wrong with the occasional sharing of a bed. If the girls become dependant of each other to sleep, than you will have a problem because as your older daughter matures she will not always want the little one's company.
I would make this a privelage for the girls based on good behavior. That way it is a treat that happens once in a while, and not the rule of the house.
2006-11-14 14:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by katherinernilson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 8 year old needs to know that you are the Mommy and that you are the one that sets the rules. The 3 year needs to sleep in her own bed because she needs to develope and keep her own sleeping habbits. What happens when the 8 eight year doesn't want to play mommy anymore and doesn't want to sleep with the 3 year old. I think you need to teach the 8 year old how to be a big sister. Let her stay up later and not have be involved in a bedtime routine with the younger one. Show that there are other things for her to do other then take of her sibling. She needs to understand that it your responsiblity to take of the 3 three year old and she needs to enjoy being a kid while it last. As the three grows up she may resent having a big sister that acts like the mother. Or the three year old may not respect your authurity if the 8 year shares that role.
2006-11-14 22:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by stocksrcoolin2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a mom, but I have 3 kids. I see nothing wrong with them sleeping together now. It is something the 8 year old will grow out of.
2006-11-14 22:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is SOOOO CUTE. I don't think it's a problem, but for the proper independent growth of you youngest, she needs to be in her own bed most nights. I think you can pick out a day where they can sleep together, like on Fridays. That way it will be a special day, and your 3 year old won't become to dependent on big sister. I have 3 girls, at times i will let all of them sleep together.
2006-11-15 03:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it should be OK for the girls to sleep together. They might both be scared of the dark and need each other for comfort to make it throught the night. It probably wont last long becuase once they are teenagers then they wont want anything to do with each other. Theres no harm in letting them sleep together, its kinda like a sleep over for them. Its nice that they love each other so much!!
I think you should let them do it and if you find it is causing problems then mabey let them do it only every couple of nights. Hope this helps you.
2006-11-14 22:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by SummerLovin' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really see a problem with it. Me and my sister are 16 months apart and from around the age of 9/10 to maybe 12 we slept in her bed a lot of the time. As long as either doesn't see it as an invasion of space then it should be ok.
2006-11-14 22:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by october g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We over analyze kids too often. I don't see the problem. Do you have any idea how many siblings have virtually no relationship and could care less about each other? Let them bond now. When the time comes, one or both will naturally break away and want to sleep alone.
2006-11-15 14:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by Apple21 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with it?!?! My 4 year old daughter comes to our bed everynight and just today my 8 year old said she wished the little one would come to her bed at night. Tonight, when the little one comes to our bed, I'm going to suggest she go to the big one's bed. There is NOTHING wrong with it. And if they try it, your older one might realize she doesn't like her little sister sleeping with her so much. Give it a try...why not?!?!
2006-11-14 22:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by farmersdaughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not see the problem, this is a phase like any other, and many children under the age of ten need to have lots of contact to thrive. Like the song, "...love makes little things grow..." A blessing in disguise, and when the older child is older she can be trusted to watch her sister, when you need "me" time.
Don't worry the older child will grow out of having her in the bed and the younger will adjust better and their sisterly bond will stay strong for their lifetime.
2006-11-14 22:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is nice. Sometimes my kids will sleep in the bed together but I put them in their own beds when they fall asleep. Its that or they want us to sleep with them. Just don't let the little get to dependant on having someone with her all the time, you want them both to be independant. Besides, like everyone else said - they will eventually grow out of it. Your doing alright!
2006-11-14 22:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by livingadream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋