do you think i have a problem?

Question

i am always feeling insecure and every-body teases me and i feel horrible and when teachers and mom ask me if everythings ok i always say yes because i am none as perfect little chear-leading caitlyn and all of a sudden i have started feeling ugly and fat and everything a young teenager girl can feel about herself thats bad.
i am really scared to tell someone that i feel this way and i am really scared for me.help.................

Answer 1

Sweetheart....there is nothing wrong with you. By the sound of your posting, you seem to be an innocent, well behaved (and beautiful) young lady. Kids are crewel, and it seems the ones who have no life or morals, seem to pick on those who do (why, I have no idea....it happened to my daughter too).
When my daughter was in grade school, she used to like to collect t-shirts with dogs printed on the front. The kids used to "bark" at her, and made her cry. She still has the love for dogs, and learned those kids were nothing after she ignored them. She is now 19, in the Navy, and doing very well for herself. All because she DIDN'T let the rotten kids from school give her a self-esteem problem, or make her feel bad. She kept liking what she liked, doing what she liked to do, and nothing stopped her. You do the same, and just think of those jerks that tease you being on such a lower level, you don't even know they are there. Good luck, and you are beautiful, NOT fat either. What you need is a good pep talk, and I will bet your mother will be just the one to give it to you, and it will make you feel so much better, I will bet my last $$ on it! Here's a saying for you to always remember.... "GO FOR IT" (and keep your motivation up, the smile on your face...and love in your heart)

Answer 2

This kind of self anger is all very normal for a teenaged girl. I should know I am one. And by keeping it inside is the worst thing you can do to yourself! You have to at least be able to talk with one of your family members. Never be scared to show how you feel no matter how stupid or lame you think it might sound to tell someone whatever you think. The only way things will get better is to have them get worse first, Face your fears and reach out to the ones who love you most. They after all are probably more worried about your depressed feelings and actions then you might think. And whoever this Kaitlyn chick is sound like you have a grudge against. But just remeber know matter how mean or cruel this girl might appear to you or whatever she has done to make you dislike her that she has insecurites too and is now more or less of a normal person as you. It's all in the intention of thinking power, To wake up one day and think "another day of highschool oh great... I'm only going to be teased and hurt" Will only get you to that same spot. It sounds cheesy to say but it works. Think positive and say what you feel or how will anyone get to know the real you? As for the people who tease you, let them know it's not gonna turn you into a feeling sorry for yourself kinda person and that anything that doesn't kill you only makes you stronger in the long run
:)
Life is what you make it and I hope you make a good one.

Answer 3

I know you must see a lot of imperfection in the world around you, Caitlyn. Okay...so most people have obvious flaws. If you have a few, that's fine. If you put up with flawed humanity and generally try to be decent and civil, the rest of the world can definitely cut you some slack. Perfection is an unreasonable goal. People who spend much of their time pursuing it miss experiences and learning opportunities that are really important. Some of the most stunted adults are those who got caught up in the pursuit of some form of perfection as teenagers. They get involved in these sick pursuits, I think, to distract themselves from the pain of being a teenager, which can be godawful. However, by refusing to deal with adolescence, they get stuck mentally and emotionally at that phase. Some of them have trouble growing up even when they decide they want to. Adolescence hurts, but the only way out of it is to deal with it. However, you don't have to deal with it alone.

As adults, your teachers and your mother have responsibilities toward you. They show they take those responsibilities seriously by asking if everything's okay. If you need their help, give them a serious answer...say, "No, everything's not okay right now. Maybe you can help me out with this?...." and tell them what the problem is. This doesn't mean that you're weak. It means that you have the sense and gumption to use someone else's wisdom. It's a time-honored kind of interaction between teenagers and their adult mentors. I say go for it.

Answer 4

This goes through every teenagers head at some point. What you need to do is feel comfortable about yourself. Dont let others pressure you into being someone you arent. You dont have to be a stuck up cheerleader to be a cool person. Stick with your friends, because they see you for who you are, and obviously like who you are.

Most kids in high school are jerks, i see it everyday. Just dont care about them. In a couple of years they are going to see that they were jerks. They are the important ones. Its how YOU feel.

I used to feel the same way, but if you just think positive and hang out with the people that love you, then you will be the happiest person on earth.

If you dont start feeling a difference, i would suggest talking to someone about it. Anyone! a friend, parents, aunt, sibling, councelor...it will all be better soon.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

yes you have a problem... youre turning to people on the net for support and a self confidence boost. not to mention leaving yourself an open target for being picked on. there are some not so nice people out there that could answer this question in a way that would make you want to hurt or possible kill yourself. i would suggest talking to a school councelor, or a parent about how youre feeling. or even a friend. and also, to walk up to cheerleader caitlyn and flippin her the bird. trust me, you dont want to be her. but otherwise, youre going through the perks of being a teenager and dealing with catty little b*tches

Answer 6

in some degree these feelings can be normal. Especially is puberty is hitting you big time and yoru body is going through all those crazy changes as well as hormones. Is it not uncommon to feel ackward about your body image at this point. It wouldn't hurt to talk to some one though like the counselors at school maybe or another female you kinda look up to who is older than you but not by too much.

Answer 7

Are you like staying away from things you like? Are you still hanging out with your friends? If not then maybe you should tell someone because if your avoiding things you like it may be depression. But it is normal to fill in secure some times. Your still growing up you will fill weird. The same things have happened to me to but i dance and all of a sudden i have been worring about my wight and how i look. i know how you feel. it was kinda scary but i tried to ignore it. But im not you so i dont know how you fill totally.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

GIRL!! It's normal as a teenager to sometimes feel insecure! Don't worry, God made you the way you are for a reason, and you are just right!! Don't let ANYONE tell you different. God bless you and stay strong!!!!!!!!!!! :)

Answer 10

you need to get to the root of the problem.. try to figure out what it is that is making you insecure.. i hardly believe that you are ugly or fat.. this is all in your mind.. next time a teacher asks you, tell them your feelings.. try to explain your depression. they can help you figure things out.. please get the help you need.. being a teenager can be full of stress and anxiety.. but there is nothing to be ashamed of..

i saw your other questions on here.. please don't do physical harm to yourself.. honey, that is not going to solve anything.. you have depression and you need some help..