they didnt call you or contact you in anyway and they knew you went in the hospital to have something done. forgive? or not?
2006-11-14 14:04:27 · 29 answers · asked by oxygenO 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sunshine... first of all I hope everything is OK with you. (See how easy that was and I don't even know you)
For a 'so-called' friend not to write or call or anything, well that is just-so-wrong.
How hard is it to type a short text message like... thinking of you hope everything is OK. :)
WOW! What did that just take 5.8 seconds.
They are not a friend.
Forgive and forget. Don't go out of your way for this person and don't invest any more of your time with this person.
I feel sorry for them... I foresee a long lonely life for this so-called-friend.
Otro vez.... and I hope everything works out for you and O!
Stay healthy
2006-11-14 14:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by BeArPaW_4709 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know the exact details why your friend didn't contact you? Could it be possible, they also had issues concerning themselves. Is fear of the inability to act a factor for your friend. Could it be you maybe a little self centered about the whole thing and are expecting to be right if your friend doesn't contact you. You may be putting too much emphasis with whom is the superior human. What about being a human being and forgive, because all humans are fallable. I once thought a friend ignored me in a Mall. For a week I felt guilty for no reason, found out she went to the eye doctor that day and her eyes where dilated, She was blind as a bat looking straight at me. Go figure. She is a true friend today! What if I chose to be right and not picked up the phone and called her?
2006-11-14 14:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by mikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hospital settings can cause a mix of emotions.
Can you think back if this person shared with you an experience of any kind that would make them hesitate to come see you but even with that --- could have at least called or sent a card?!
Elevators believe it or not are a real deterant to some even!
Be a bigger person and make sure that something has not happened to that person to hender contacting you in a timely fashion ...... time may have passed and has now caused it to be an embarrassment and not sure how to approach you.
If this is a friendship you consider of value - place a call or send a note stating that you have come thru okay and miss them .... see what the response is, if any, and there may be your answer.
2006-11-14 14:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find out why they did not contact you.If they are the self -absorbed type....and you know it ...what do you expect??? If not, yeah ... I would be somewhat hurt.. especially since I am the type that would at least call and check on my friend.
Maybe you need a new BEST friend. This person obviously does not see your relationship as a very close one. There are always other people out there who can handle being the friend they should be.
2006-11-14 14:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by jamocha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, my name is Eunice Saunders and I think that this is totally up to you....do you love your friend enough to forgive? How much can you forgive? Forgiveness is a gift you could give your friend and yourself....it cost you nothing...except maybe a little pride. Love, true love is forgiveness in the highest best fashion. Good Luck, Eunice
2006-11-14 14:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Eunice Melinda Saunders 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes forgive... The friend might not have known how to deal with the situation, and so avoided you altogether. Your friend might not be mature enough to know how to deal with serious situations. This is a common thing, but very forgivable.
2006-11-14 14:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive them. Their absence was a defining moment in the friendship, that's all. You thought more of the friendship than they did. So, in all honesty, there is nothing to really forgive or be upset about. You will just need to re-examine how close you two are.
2006-11-14 14:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by GO NAVY! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should forgive your friend if he or she has a good reason for not contacting you. If he or she says that they never contacted you because they forgot, then maybe that person is not a true friend.
2006-11-14 14:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, DONT ASSUME. SOMETHING MAY HAVE HAPPENED, OR THEY MAY BE TOO AFRAID FOR YOU, GOING IN THE HOSPITAL AND ALL, OR THEY COULD HAVE SOMETHING GOING ON IN THEIR LIVES AT THE MOMENT. SO UNTIL THEY TELL YOU WHY THEY DIDNT CALL, DONT BE MAD. HOWEVER, IF THEY HAVE NO LEGIT REASON, LET THEM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL.... AND THEN SEE WHERE IT GOES FROM THERE....DEPEPNDING ON HOW LONG YOU HAVE BEEN FRIENDS.....FORGIVING ISNT SO BAD.
2006-11-14 14:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always forgive your friends. Especially if you don't know why they didn't contact you. Perhaps something urgent happened in their life, and they simply didn't have time. Friends are important to keep around and have, treasure them, we all make mistakes. So forgive him/her.
2006-11-14 14:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lizzie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋