got out of a 2 year relationship with my 1st boyfriend. I am so hurt now because of being used. I was dating this guy and the whole time he used all of my money. I have nothing left. He had jobs off and on that lasted a week to 3 months max. He had a very bad drug problem that I had to support. He would yell at me if I didn't give him money. I have supported the 2 kids he has with 2 different moms for 2 years as well. If he didn't get high he wouldn't do anything. He has threatened my life over and over again plus the people that I love. I have bought him a car for $2000, a $1000 loan to pay for his apartment that he lost anyway, a Pep Boys credit card, and a total of $30,000 in credit card damages that I'm stuck with. My parents have just recently found this out and forbid me to see him. I don't know what to do? He blames me for ending our relationship and now he has a new girl because I am listening to my parents. I don't know why I still miss him and want him back. Please help me!!
2006-11-14 14:04:15 · 5 answers · asked by KAB128 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you want him back because you think you love him, give it some time, find someone new and really try to fight that feeling, everytime you think you want him back think of all the bad he has done and remind yourself that you can do better, you deserve someone who treats you the way you treat them.
2006-11-14 14:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on getting out.
This was an abusive relationship, but you volunteered for it. And it became like an addiction to you. You are suffering withdrawal symptoms, but you will feel much better.
Think of it this way. If your daughter were to meet a man who behaves like him, would you encourage the relationship? When you start longing for him, keep this in mind. Don't let your unhealthy emotions rule your life. Use your mind. You have to take care of yourself.
I am so thankful that your parents are supporting you in this. They don't want you to be hurt anymore. You have no idea how much it hurts a parent, to see a child suffering and be unable to help. You may have conflicts with them, but keep your mind on what is best for you, not on how you miss your ex.
2006-11-14 22:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please. Listen to your parents. This guy is not a good thing for you. Yes. You still miss him, but get over it. He has taken you for your money and emotions. If he threatens your life, you really need to leave him alone. It is not the end of the world.
2006-11-14 22:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kristinaaaaa are u that blind how in the world can u miss this guy
nothing nice came out of that relantionship ,kristina just listen to your parents they doing the right thing in helping you out not all parents are the same in helping there kids. have some dignity and respect for your self why live that life in misery,and deceptions or is it that you don't want to be happy ,i know u want to be happy your parents want you to be happy and progress in life when there time runs out meaning when they pass away, they want to say to them self i aleast our daughter is happy and made a diffrence in her life.that nothing can't hold her down
2006-11-14 22:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by x_x_andre_x_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you miss him because your self esteem is gone. kudos to your parents and take them as a blessing. now is your chance to find out who you really are. so take off and fly with it.
2006-11-14 22:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by jaymoneymaker245 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋