Ho do you meet people at thirty?

Question

I'm thirty years old and single again. Unfortunately the idea of meeting people in bars or clubs got old a long time ago and the online thing has lead to quite a few first dates that were uniformly horrid. You know, the single attractive 32 year old I was supposed to meet turned out to be a married, bearded musk ox who might have been 32 during the depression.... any ideas?

Answer 1

Hi Daniel. Thanks for not being a teen - I was about to give up hope.

I'm single and in my 30's too and it's hard...... really hard. After age 24 it was nearly impossible because I didn't "hang out" at bars or anything anymore. I know how nasty it is to date people from the web, I had some nightmare dates as well. My advice is to maybe join a gym, a volunteer group or get a night job (that's what I did). And look for things like speed dating or singles mixers or get togethers. Like those hiking trips and stuff. I met a great guy at one of those. There were some things like volleyball and cooking classes, swimming classes and stuff like that at my old school that adults sign up for.

My best advice: fill your life up. Make a happy life for yourself doing whatever it is that you like. Try not to focus on what you don't have. You probably have a lot right now - build on it.

: )

P.S. I forgot to mention pets. Get a dog or maybe volunteer at a pet rescue, or be a foster home to some lucky dog. Now there's time well spent.

Answer 2

I have been there. I would just get involved in things that you like to do that you haven't been able to before now. And it is true, when you are not looking, someone will pop up. I met my current husband b/c I worked with his mother, who asked me over to her house to join them for a family dinner. Never in a million years would I have thought I would have met my husband at her house.

I would simply try to find the things you enjoy again (we all give certain things up when we get married or are in a serious relationship, to an extent anyway) and maybe try to find some new hobbies. This way, even if you don't meet someone you want to date, you will be meeting people that you have things in common with and can be friends with. You could try joining book clubs if you like to read, many churches have singles groups, there are many opportunities for volunteering out there, too. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Well Daniel like you I was terrified of meeting people, actually embarrassed also to have to stoop to using the Internet, but after meeting a couple of vultures I did meet my fiance there. But there are a lot of spots besides the bar scene to meet women your age. Depending on your interests, it might be a library, a sporting event, a volunteer organization or some friends may try and hook you up with a single friend of theirs that they think you may connect with. Do not be discouraged as I was 48 when I was back in the game and I can relate when you say it's difficult. Best of luck to you in meeting someone.

Answer 4

Word Life, Dan...

I'm in the same boat. Nice guy, good job, decent looking. Single as a hunchbacked bellringer.

20 something women care more about partying than finding something real. 30 something women want children with a quickness. So its a choice between late-night shots of jegermeister or insta-family.

Church, social clubs, gyms, all good ideas. Just hasn't worked for me. I've learned that if you stop looking so hard, sometimes you trip over what you're looking for. Good luck anyhow. And watch out for the water buffalo.

Answer 5

I know it's hard, but I guess when your not looking, someone will come along. How about your job? Or a friend could introduce you to a friend? Lot's of single people are in the same predicament! We need to have more free clubs/gatherings, where people of all ages can meet and get to know each other! Good luck!!

Answer 6

i agree with what you said in your letter. now the possibilies. find a place that does something you enjoy. do you enjoy excercising at the Y? do you enjoy reading? maybe you can find a library or a class where a book is read and everyone can talk about it. have you considered volunteer work? try looking through the want ads or word of mouth. just be yourself and enjoy every moment. that way you may develop a positive outlook and you will be surprised how that changes everything.

Answer 7

you just need to have more faith in your self go to different activities sport, benefits dinners. any place like you just need to get out there do something more than normal. The right one will come you just need to try and find her. If not maybe you are meant to be alone that is how it is for some people. Well Good Luck and hope you use this advice

Answer 8

HELLO,
WELL I AM SINGLE AND 27 BUT I NEVER WENT TO CLUBS OR BARS TO MEET ANY ONE....I HAVE 2 PRECIOUS CHILDREN AT HOME AND I WANNA MAKE IT HOME TO SEE THEM EVERY WAKING MOMENT....I MUST HAVE A MAGNET ON MY FOREHEAD BECAUSE MEN JUST WALK UP AND START A CONVERSATION OUTTA NO WHERE AND THEN ASK ME OUT.....BUT I HAVE THE PROBLEM OF NOT MEETING THEM FOR A 2ND FOR THE SIMPLE FACT OF GETTING ATTACHED TO SOME ONE......BUT I KNOW THAT THE INTERNET DATING SUCKS BECAUSE THEY USE HIGH SCHOOL PICS AND THEY NO NO NO LONGER LOOK LIKE THAT AND THEN YOUR LEFT DISAPPOINTED.....BUT GETTING INVOLVED WITH SOCIAL MEETINGS IN YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD HELPS ALSO CHURCH GETTING ACTIVE IN SPORTS OR GOING FOR LONG WALKS IN A PARK WHERE PEOPLE IN GENERAL ARE AT THEN YOU GET TO MEET A VARIETY.......GET THE MOVIE MUST LIKE MY DOG......ITS A GREAT EYE OPENER......AND BEING SINGLE ISN'T FUN BUT I AM LUCKY I HAVE CHILDREN EVERY NIGHT TO GO HOME TO AND KEEP ME COMPANY IF I AM LONELY....GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE I HAVE HELPED SOME SORT OF WAY.....

Answer 9

I'm 25 and single again too. I'm Asian. If you are interested, e mail me, lol.

P.S. Your name is the same as my ex's.

Answer 10

look at me...i'm 31....but i'm halfway across the world..LOL

i'm sure you can find your match just be patient.....and of course be cautious too!