At least for me it is, the more i think negatively about this girl the more it helps me get over her, I just think about all the negative things about her, even though I love and care for her alot its the only thing working for me, because I never wanna be just her "friend"... but I dont wanna be like that, is there any other ways that some of you use to get over someone?
2006-11-14 13:51:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
time heals all wounds. there's no method to getting over someone. one day, you just wake up and you're over them. in the meantime, stay busy. that will at least help you focus on other things.
2006-11-14 13:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by tweety3282001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate takes a lot of energy...and that is NOT good. Instead, try giving her NO energy, neither positive or negative. That way, your energy can be used on constructive things in your life. Negative energy always carries bad karma with it. Not a good idea. The more you think about her, regardless of what thoughts, the closer she will be to you in your mind. That is not the way to get over someone. Good luck
2006-11-14 21:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger is effective for many...it's hard to be sad about someone, when you're p*ssed off at them...it's okay to use that as a tool to get through the situation...think of the things that bugged you, exaggerate them in your mind...become furious...
In time (usually less than it would take if you allowed the grief to work it's way away) the anger will dissipate and you'll be left with feelings of loss, but not the pain...you'll miss the person, but not ache to see them...
Or you can work through the grief, without using anger, and allow Time and distraction to run their course...
2006-11-14 21:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just coming out of a relationship myself, i would have to agree on some points, but, not 100%.
For me, i just do my own thing, try and forget about her. I know it's hard, but, you don't always wanna think about the bad times, but, you also don't wanna think about the good times all the time either. It's very....difficult to tell ya what to do, or suggest other things to you, because everybody does it in their own way.
Just block her outta everything - if you have her on Yahoo or MSN or any other IM program, block her for now. Delete her if ya have to. Stop going to places where she hangs out occasionally...try your best to avoid her in every situation you can, it'll just make it harder.
Other than that, i dunno what else to tell ya. Hope i was some help though :)
2006-11-14 21:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by XxDJToxic420xX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate only servers to hurt you more. When we do it It's like someone holding onto and squeezing a prorqupine - why? It just hurts more! We do that when we "hurt" sometimes. The best thing is to reflect on the GOOD that came from being with this person and that you have the maturity and goodwill to "let her go" and that will speak volumes to your heart and ease that quill :-)
2006-11-14 21:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by Scott L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate isn't the best way of getting over someone. The longer you dwell on your memories (good or bad, it's the same), the longer it will take you to forget about that person. Try to busy yourself with other things and you'll see that, with time, you won't think about her at all.
2006-11-14 21:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by wiccanwarrior1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that;s what i do to get over my ex b/fs ... ..it just makes you realize more that you are not good for each other and that you want somebody different...... doesn't mean that you should stop loving them, or treating them without respect (even though that happens sometimes). I find that i truly get over somebody when i find the next person. try to find a diferent girl that you would be interested in...
2006-11-14 21:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you can think of her very positively... it will do more good than thinking of her negatively.... I ve done it. and I feel better... Thinks worked out better. Instead of hating him....(I had reasons believe me) I admired him.... and said to myself I was lucky to know him and Hope he meets someone nice like me.
It's easier to get over someone like that. Hate does no good.
You have to think positively,,, there are many people out there like her... and you will find it... just stay positive.
2006-11-14 21:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a good thing thing. Use it to motivate you in doing whatever you want to do. It works.
2006-11-14 22:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It helps me out all the time....but I know its cliche but the best way is....time.
2006-11-14 21:55:14 · answer #10 · answered by Cathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋