I am a girl with fair skin, lots of freckles, red hair, very dark, short, I have a medium build, I am 5'1 and 135 pounds, I am 15 years old, I am a cross country runner, and i gert a's and b's, and I play the clarinet in band, anyway question is why do guys not like me, I have not had a boyfriend at any time of my life I was just wondering why this is. I have notice that some guys act different towards me now that I am a freshmen in highschool, but I was still wondering who could give me some advice, and who has any thoughts on this matter. I would really like it if you could reply as soon as possible. Thanks!
2006-11-14 13:50:44 · 9 answers · asked by Fire 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi tabby
you sound like a nice girl. it's hard to say what it is that guys don't like. could be your body languauge? also could be your mood. do you appear to be in a good mood or a bad mood? guys may assume that you are negative and not interested in them..
the other thing, they may be indimidated. sounds like you are a good athelete and a good student.. could be they don't think they are good enough for you.. it's really hard to say.
just do your best to keep a smile on your face and do your best to chat and communicate with guys at school. sometimes the best relationships start out with a friendly chat the develops into a friendship.
2006-11-14 13:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was your age (many moons ago), I was just about in the same situation. By the end of my freshman year, I had a boyfriend and wow did things change!!!! Sometimes it takes that first boyfriend to get the other guys to see you in a different light. There is nothing wrong with you!! Don't ever think that!! Sometimes when you are kinda in the background and kinda shy, they don't always see you. It just takes another guy on your arm for the others to notice. If you want the attention before then, try a different hair style or highlight it different. Try smiling at the boys that you want to notice you. Look them in the eye and hold their attention and then "wink". I am sure you have great eyes, find a style of eye make-up that makes them pop out. It's all about getting them to notice you--in a good way.
I wish you all the best!! Just have fun!! Things will come when the time is right.
2006-11-14 22:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a likeable enough person. I'm in cross country myself, used to play the clarinet, A & B student. I've got some friends from XC that do band and get these phenomenal grades and I look at them and say, "How do they do it?" It looks to me like they have no free time at all. That might be how you're coming across as to others. Get a group that you sit with at lunch or something and hang out sometime. It may help you more than you think.
2006-11-15 20:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not worry about guys right now. You are on a personal roll with your grades(kudos)! You will be noticed soon enough. Then, unfortunately, your school work will take a dive. Don't let you hormones take control of you. Most high school relationships(boy-girl) don't last. There are often even more regrets! Enjoy being young. Prepare yourself for your future! Most girls go further in life without a boyfriend at a young age. A boyfriend changes their outlook. Most girls pursue their boyfriends wishes instead of their own. That's how they keep a boyfriend. In this process they loose sight of themselves. Thus their downfall and loss in life. Keep smart!
2006-11-14 22:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok tabby,i love that name by the way. everything you just described about yourself are qualities than a lot of dudes will go for. however. most of it is outer beauty. belive it or not, some guys do go for inner beauty to. you are more than likely going to college some day. i know having a bf in high school is huge and going to the prom and all that, but i think you should be focused on your education. you are smart and atheletic so use that as confidence and guys will come to you.
2006-11-14 22:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have a boyfriend until I was a junior in high school. I realized that though, I was pretty and nice and sweet, I wasn't confident, and boys didn't start liking me until I was more confident. So just get out there, talk to boys, and be friendly and confidnt. Hopefully it will help
2006-11-14 21:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you act geeky?maybe thats your prod i am 16 and i have had alot of bf because i act cool funny and HOT! maybe you need to wear i now this may sound like im going to turn you into a hore but wear sexy shirts try wearing low cut shirt or short skirts if you hair is long let your hair down and try to act as HOT! as you can hope i heped! im me if you need more pls!GOOD LUCK AND TRY THAT BYE!
2006-11-14 22:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't present yourself as the datable type....guys are intimidated by girls like you (smart attractive and athletic...)...I know...I'm you... only african american and about five yrs older. I didn't have my first real boyfriend till I was 14 years old...it'll happen...give it time.
2006-11-14 21:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by Cathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time you'll find someone, men love redheads, heck i married a redhead...You still have time...
2006-11-14 22:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋