I'm just wondering how long I have left before I have to conform to the norm.
2006-11-14 13:34:41 · 21 answers · asked by Snowth 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I personally feel after 40 is getting too old you would be 58 when your kids are grown and the older you are as a parent the harder to relate to today's generation. as we get older our health changes also and it's hard to take care of children when we have to take care of our own aches and pains. i have grand-kids and it's great but when it's too much for me they go home. Try these books and then decide it is a decision you and your partner can decide on. Good luck
While medical science and technology can offer new hope for older women conceiving a child, not much can be done about the increased risks to you and to the baby once conception has occurred.
After age 40, your risks do indeed go up. Risk for multiple births, preeclampsia, hypertension, fetal growth restriction, diabetes and preterm labor all increase with age. Of course, you may be just the couple who beat the odds -- and much also depends on your emotional resiliency. It can be very helpful to have a loving husband and friends to help support you.
At age 45 or 46, your risk of having a child with Down Syndrome would be 1 in 23 to 30 and your risk for any chromosomal abnormality is 1 in 15 to 20.
I don't mean to discourage you. If this is something you really want to do, of course, you should do it. I don't believe pregnancy and birth would pose substantial risk to your general health, but you may want to consider the emotional and physical stamina required to be pregnant, give birth and raise a child to adulthood.
There are many books written on this topic.
"Getting Pregnant", by Melvin Frisch, Body Press: 1987
"Birth Over 35", by Sheila Kitzinger, Penguin Books: 1985
"Last-Chance Children", by Monica Morris, NY: Columbia University Press: 1988
2006-11-14 13:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by katlady927 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
18
2006-11-14 13:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
After 40.
2006-11-14 19:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by The BudMiester 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a lady giving birth I reckon 35 to 45 if natural.
With men it should be around 50, so they are not too ancient when the kid's finish with college.
2006-11-15 01:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jayne 2 (LMHJJ) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im too old at 40 but i hear its the thing to do nowadays . I personally wouldn't have kids now knowing what i had to go through . My kids and 20 and 17 and im glad i had them when i was younger. Now im a free bird again!
2006-11-14 14:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what norm? i had a cousin 54 GOD love her gave birth to a baby har 9 other kids and one husband he was in the marines..you'll know to stop when you get tired or die..ha ha ha,,,,grandparents are raising grand and great-grand....there is no known norm to human behavior...is there? i never in 49 years seentwo parents alike... you got as much or as little time as you like
2006-11-14 13:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi ..... im in ireland......but if you remember in england there wasa women lastyr who had a child at 65 ? i dont think its anyones biz whatage you have a child as long as your happy and give the child the best life that you can so anyone who tellsyou dif well tell themto go get a life we are in 2006 now and not the dark ages ...do what makes you feel happy...lol
2006-11-15 01:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by james t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
73 1/4
2006-11-14 13:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by sdbrian92108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think yor ever too old to start a family as long as your in good health
2006-11-14 13:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by stressed mum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how old your head is.
I know a seventeen year old who is a wonderful parent.
I also know a 54 year old who has no idea.
I started my new family at 54 and eleven years on we are all loving it.
2006-11-14 13:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋