My friends parents are... abusive? They party all the time, his dad is an alchoholic, and his mom leaves the house, sometimes for days on end. His dad sometimes even goes with her, leaving him to do everything for the rest of the family, his younger brothers, cooking meals, everything. What can I do to help him?
2006-11-14 13:26:21 · 6 answers · asked by Zach S 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think he can move in with my family, and he would rather not be homeless...
2006-11-14 13:30:06 · update #1
First don't do anything without your friends permission.. I say this because your friend will need good friends like you no matter what the outcome is. I would talk to your friend tell him all the information you have gotten here ( it is good stuff ) then hopefully his decision will be to call child protective services - It is in the phone book under city or the state pages ( up front and marked by a colored edges. ) or call the operator and ask for the number., Wait till parents are gone or partying and call -maybe have an adult call if you can, explain what you did to us. The other option is to go to a school counselor and ask for help,explain what is going on and what your friend would like to happen, It may not make his parents happy in the beginning but hopefully they will realize that what they were doing was way wrong. maybe parenting classes,counseling and A.A. ordered by the court will help.School and a social worker will be able to help monitor his parents. I hope they will realize they have a very smart and loving son that wants the family to succeed, and that his choice in friends is superb. Good luck.
2006-11-15 05:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by Liz H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sad situation and difficult.
Even if your friend could live with you, the younger brothers need to be cared for also. This would be a big undertaking; most likely they all have emotional problems.
Your friend should talk to the school counselor about it. If he doesn't, perhaps you should; you could get some ideas.
You can call Child Protective Services anonymously. You have to give the name and address of your friend and/or his siblings. They will probably talk to him at school for the sake of privacy. Then they will contact the parents. It sounds like they are neglectful rather than frankly abusive, but you may not know everything. CPS will make the parents understand that they have to take care of their children. With any luck, things will get better for the kids after that.
Your friend is taking on a parental role in the family, which is hard on him. As his friend, show him that he needs to take care of himself. He needs to get his education and get on with life. If he is tempted to do anything self-destructive, like drugs or gangs, remind him that he has enough trouble in his life and to take care of himself.
2006-11-14 14:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dislike drinking. I had an alchoholic Dad, but you know what?
I really have gotten over it with the help of AL-ANON. For friends and family of drinkers. It was one of the best things I did for
myself, when my dad was drinking--back then.
They must still be in the selfish stages of their life. I think I grew out of mine.
A story of my niece--her parents drank and worked all the time.
She was left raising her two little sisters. I think she hated it then, but NOW she has a daughter and is a VERY good mother!
It's just strange, but wonderful how God worked things out
for good.
I'll pray for the help for that family.
2006-11-14 13:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry to hear this, since there are kids involved, i would call social services...i know you dont want to get anyone in trouble, but honestly, your friend is definitely in trouble...and, god forbid your friend and his/her siblings end up on the street. if you dont feel comfortable calling social services, make an anonymous call. or, get someones parents involved. this is purely unhealthy and you should seek help immediately.
2006-11-14 13:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to child services and report them and tell them they could live with u for awhile so they don't have to move
2006-11-14 13:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by Ledzeppelin324 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, I do no want you to get hurt!!!!
Pray for your friend!!!!
Also, all ove this website is what?????????
Reprot abuse!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-14 13:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋