Can anyone please tell me "ONLY" the pros about being in Iraq... Are things died down now. Give me some positive examples of troops coming home safely & benefiting from going to Iraq. Please... "NO CONS" just "PROS"... I need to hear good things right now. It's only been 2 days since he's left. Thanks!!!
2006-11-14 13:20:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
First of all I deeply impathize with your worry. All or most mothers worry and all military sons know this.
First focus on being PROUD that you have a son that left a boy and became a man. Not just a man but a human man that caes about life. Although out of necessisity he may be required to take lives.
A man that has been trained by other experienced MEN that went before him but passed on their knowledge and skills that enhanced the chance for him to come back to you.
You were and had to be strong thru out his life and that strength came from you that prepared the military to make him even stronger than you did.
So what HE needs is for you to be strong for yourself. To give him your love and not give pause for him to be distracted by your worry at this time. He needs all his vocuse on his job, not his job of killing but his job of surviving and not being killed.
Mom, I know you worry and such worry hurts but turn that worry/hurt into positive action and energy. Send he and his men what use to be called care packages but I call LOVE packages. Remember he is not going to tell, send you any bad news or hurtfull things that will make you hurt or worry more. So you do the same.
Remember you two are a team in this sense just as he and his fellow heros are. He will soon have access and be able to send web mail etc. You do the same. Fill that camera when you answer full of love and show him your strength in that love.
Now for you, GET/Keep busy. If you have other children,husband at home continue to band and share love with them like you did him. Pull on your spiritual/relegious faith. Get involved in a support group of other mothers who are also going thru what you are. If you are not near the base he was deployed from then talk to the Chaplain at a base near you and he can direct you to other mothers and wifes there to connect with.
If you think it will help you are free to be a chat buddy with me for moral support. My EM is gsmcsee@yahoo.com.
I hope this helps. Also please excuse spelling for I think it is too long for "spell check to work"
2006-11-14 13:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by GERALD S. MCSEE 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mom be proud for raising a man and not a boy, I personally want to give him a huge hug for fighting for our freedom.
The pros I don't know and the cons are obvious. Look, you can take two stands here.
1. Be afraid all the time, giving into the fears the terrorist want us to have. You can worry yourself sick and not be happy at all.
2. Stand proud and hold your head high for the choices your son is making. You can get a positive thought process going and start by making things to send there. Show him you support this choice by not making him worry about you.
Mom, I know (I have a son myself) your going to worry but it won't help you, my heart is full of hope and promise for your son and all the sons and daughters over there. Go on line and find other parents that have a family member over there and together you can share thoughts and feelings.
Remember that we here are so proud and praying for all our soldiers to come home soon.
God bless. Keep us informed.
2006-11-14 13:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by sideways 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God bless you and your son. Mine is due to leave in January for Iraq. I certainly understand how you feel at this time. I pray that your son is always safe and secure. May he return home healthy and happy to see you.
He will want a LOT of care packages. Make sure you send things that are not perishable. Send lots of pictures of family, friends, pets, home. My son always loves the pictures of the dumb things his dogs get into while he is gone. Don't send things that must be packed and shipped back to the States when he returns. Food and other "consumable" items are best.
Just keep sending him things so he doesn't feel like he is forgotten. We know he is NOT forgotten, but he may feel like that once in a while.
2006-11-14 13:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Things have died down a lot since I was there. Except for October (the enemy successfully influenced the elections) attacks tend to be directed more against Iraqi civilians than US troops.
Your best bet is to ignore what the news media tells you and listen to what your son tells you. You will be surprised at how distorted the news is.
Your son will be fine. He will probably come home hating Iraqi dust and Iraqi mud though. :-)
2006-11-15 04:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by MikeGolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby did a tour in Iraq. out of the fleet of ships that went out with him only one Marine died and that was an accident on the ship! They had a few minor injuries (my hubby injured his knee and back but hes fine) There's still "hot spots" in the sandbox, no one can tell you its all better all the time, but our military is well trained for the situations they are to encounter. My husband is medically retired now but hes had several buddies go back a 2nd and 3rd time and they've been fine. as for benefiting from going over...Hmm sorry there's a lot they go thru even when not under fire. ptsd, night terrors etc etc are things they come back with. but they also come back with "brothers", men they forever will be connected to, many they stay in contact with for years. They come back with a new pair of eyes. they now know something most will never understand and many are better for it. Bless your son and thank him for his service.
2006-11-14 13:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He must be doing what he feels is right as all our
military is volunteer (no draft now).
All the service people who would go to a place like Iraq
are exceptional and brave and he can never be called
a wimp.
He believes in fighting for freedom in the U.S. and for
helping Iraq to have freedom also.
Pray for him every day. May God Bless him and return
him safely.
2006-11-14 13:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that anyone can properly give you the true pros or even true cons. But what you can do is give him all of your love and support. As soon as possible, find out what his materialistic needs he may have once he gets there. Have friends and family send him care packages and letters of support. The last thing he needs is any negativity. If any friends or family have negative opinions, politely ask them to keep them to themselves until he comes home. Some soldiers will tell you they do the job for god and country but most all soldiers will tell you they do it for the man in uniform standing next to them, the men in uniform that did it before them, and the men in uniform that will do it after them. I'm proud of him and please tell him THANK YOU for me. a1ibddd@yahoo.com.
2006-11-14 13:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by a1ibddd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
till there are particular circumstances he wont choose you to deliver him money or telephone playing cards. telephone calls residing house could nicely be accomplished for unfastened from each and every fob in Iraq. they have remaining dates so as that every physique can get a turn, yet there are additionally pay telephones he can use if he needs extra time. additionally they have unfastened internet cafe's so as that he can get on line and chat. As for money tell him to take a debit card with him. he will even have the potential to bypass and get a funds advance out of his pay there. The shrink for that's like 3 hundred each and every 2 weeks or something like that. (i be attentive to thats not precisely suitable yet its close). Plus there is not that lots to take a place in over there. the biggest concern you're able to do for him is merely permit him be attentive to how proud you're of him, help him emotionally. understand that he won't have the potential to speak approximately what he is going by using, merely wait and notice with him and be attentive to-how. and finally deliver foodstuff. The foodstuff in alot of the smaller fobs in Iraq sucks. Can foodstuff like chile and raviole became into my fav.
2016-10-17 07:20:49 · answer #8 · answered by scharber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will make lifetime friends that will always be there.
He will be part of a bigger picture that he can always reflect on.
You have something to be proud of that most cannot begin to comprehend.
Statistically you have a better chance of being killed by a drunk driver than anything happening in the Theater of Operations.
He will be fine! Your anxiety will wear off after a few weeks - and as his return date draws closer you will be even more proud than you can comprehend right now.
2006-11-14 23:23:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pro is that your son is well trained in his field and was NOT raised by any fool.........start getting all those things he loves and hunt down all his favorites for all those huge care packages he is going to REALLY look forward to getting from his dear old mum
Take care and HUGE positive thoughts going your way
2006-11-14 13:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by candy g 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋