my daughter is having the hardest time potty training, my first was not bad, but my second will go on the potty at times, and then she just refuses and goes in her training pants. i have no idea what to do, and i know i'm getting frustrated but i don't want her to sense that. does anybody have any advice??? by the way she just turned four.
2006-11-14 13:10:39 · 14 answers · asked by pandiepoo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
my 2nd child is a daughter also. She's also 4, actually 4 1/2 now. Anyway, what I did was let her follow me into the bathroom and let her see how it's supposed to be done. Make sure you buy the child toilet seat cover (they have Dora) or the portable potties they make for kids. My daughter immediately loved the Dora seat cover so that inspired her. Secondly, reward her. That is soooo important. Take her to the store and show her all the "Big Girl Panties" with all the characters on them. Tell her as soon as she learns to do potty in the big girl potty then she can wear these amazing panties. My daughter flipped out. She was soooo excited. She learned in one day. She now has almost one dresser drawer full of panties. :) Cinderella, Disney Princess, Carebears, Dora, Strawberry Shortcake...you name it she has it. Try these things. It should work. You really need to be on her every single day. good luck,,,,email me if you need any more advice... dezire0825@yahoo.com :)
2006-11-14 13:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oldest was 3 and started to do #1 but not #2 then she ended up sick and had a UTI and stopped all together and thought it was from the potty. Eventually she got the hang of it. My middle daughter would not go even if I had her sit there for 15 minutes. Finally one day I knew she was ready since she was dry at night for 2 weeks and I told her today we are putting on big girl underwear, she didn't have many accidents but she always had them on the way to the potty or trying to get on the potty, but she did it. My youngest on the other hand, I thought would be the easiest since I have two older children constantly running the the bathroom. She was terrified of the potty. She would scream like I was killing her when I brought her into any bathroom unless if was bath time or bedtime brushing. I finally tried getting one of those potty dolls (Dr. Phil advice) and showing her how the doll went potty and after that we gave the doll a pretty cool party with lots of fun stuff to do and then good snacks. She went through two party's for the doll pouting and whining because it wasn't for her. After that she started going. I'd ask her and she'd say no, I thought it didn't do any good until I heard her little potty being moved and her getting on the potty. She goes running every 30-45 minutes and is doing great. She is wondering why she didn't get a party every time like the doll and I told her next time she's got to go #2 to get a party. Today's the 1st day no #2 in her pull ups. I hope this helps.
2006-11-14 17:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by nicole_dams 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One of the things that worked for me and was an immediate success was making a HUGE deal out of the fact she went potty on the big girl potty...... EVERY TIME. She would jump up and give me a great big hug and kiss and say I DID IT MOMMY! If she's refusing to go ... bring her in the bathroom, with a coloring book, or book to read or something to take her mind off of sitting in one place for any length of time. If it helps, bring out her potty chair and sit in front of the TV. I started off with getting small prizes for her and a wipe off board she could only write on when she went potty on the big potty.
Does she tell you when she's gone in her training pants? There have only been very few times mine has had an accident, and she tells me the minute she does it. She can't STAND her pants and everything being wet. When she does go in her pants, do you bring her in the bathroom and have her sit on the potty? This was another way I got my 3 yr old to understand that pee goes in the potty, not in her pants.
Try not to get frustrated, and I know it's easier said than done. Whatever you do, be consistent with her and keep reminding her to go on the potty. If you have to, increase the amount of fluids she's drinking so she'll have to go more often. Good luck to you!
2006-11-14 14:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of 2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 18 months and is doing the potty training thing.
I take her to the bathroom at these times....
1) right when she wakes up
2) at least every two hours
3) when she asks to go (and she does)
4) before bed and nap
If you have another child who is potty trained see if you can enlist their help as they are a role model for your child.
Make potty time fun, stress definately does not help.
Be consistent, consistent, consistent that is most important.
I have heard getting panties that have her favorite characters on them helps because she won't want to soil them.
Oh, and if your child goes to any type of daycare, grandma's house etc. make sure they are doing the exact same things you do to encourage potty training.
2006-11-14 14:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by katherinernilson 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here is what we did for our son who will be four at the end of January. I actually went to the store and bought a bunch of cheap little toys. Cars, balls, anything that I knew he would love. I tacked them to the wall above the toilet. I showed him the toys and told him when he goes in the potty, he gets a toy. I didn't even use up the little gifts I bought before he was trained. Not only was he trained, but he didn't even ask where the toys went. I just stopped putting them up. I spent a .25 to 1.00 (for a matchbox car) per toy. My justification was how much I was going to save in the long run by not having to buy diapers or pull ups. I know that you can pick up little cute bracelets and other trinkets for little girls pretty cheap. I bought things in bulk then put them in separate baggies before I pinned them to the wall. It worked wonders!
2006-11-14 19:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
getting frustrated with her is not going to help at all. Because she is so old maybe you can reward her for going on the potty maybe you can make a chart in your bathroom everytime she goes to the bathroom she can add a sticker to her chart and at the end of the week or day she can have or do something special.
2006-11-14 13:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all children are different. she's just not ready yet. the thing to think about is she is only 4. she's still a little kid. i know people will give me thumbs down, but i think you should put her back in diapers, and potty train when she is ready to learn. i wouldn't even force her until she hits 5. she's only little once and it will be over before you know it. no use stressing her or yourself out.
2006-11-14 14:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by Shell 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow 4?? She understands what is going on. Take away things she likes and she can get them back by having a good day and going on the potty.
2006-11-14 13:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by JS 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Try having her just be naked for the day. She may not have a problem with soiling her pants, but she may think twice when she's soiling herself! I've heard this works wonders.
She just might not be ready.
2006-11-14 13:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by mandiedq 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
she just may not be ready ,check out your local library mine has videos on potty training, maybe that would help. good luck .
2006-11-14 13:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by Connie 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋